QuestionQUESTION: I live right next to that place and never noticed it. On my way to the ultrasound I'll ask to stop by a store near it to see if its there. Thanks alot. I'll keep you updated.
ANSWER: Jameela,
That's wonderful news! I'll keep praying! You're welcome. Hang in there. Tell your mother that if she forces you to have an abortion, you will tell the world what she did. She probably wants to avoid shame. Also, she may think that she will have to take care of the baby. Not necessarily. And by the way, I know a woman who was gang raped when she was about your age, and she had the baby, and she and her parents cared for the baby until she was old enough to take care of him on her own. She is now happily married. There are solutions. But just keep resisting. Keep me informed. I'll be here for you no matter what.
Just be sure and tell your mother that it is ILLEGAL for a doctor to do an abortion on you without YOUR consent. And like I said, if necessary, call the police!
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QUESTION: Thanks. I think I have a plan now to get her to understand. I'm on vacation in Georgia so it will be hard for me to have computer access alot. But when I get back I will keep you informed on how I'm doing.
ANSWER: Jameela,
It does my heart good to read you saying that.
Just remember: do not cooperate in any way. Don't sign papers, don't walk to the door, get into the car, or walk into the building. Tell every doctor you meet you don't want an abortion.
I will keep praying for you. I doubt seriously if she can make you have an abortion against your will. Please know that parents often react this way to begin with. But by the time the baby comes, they will dote on their grandchild. So give her time, but don't let her bully you in any way. Just keep telling her that if she loves you, she won't ask you to take this kind of risk with your life.
I have been in your mother's shoes, though I would never consider doing what she's doing. I have eight grandchildren. One of them was born out of wedlock to one of our sons. He is just as precious as the others; I don't see any difference. I told his mother thank you for having him and letting us be a part of his life, and hers.
I'll be delighted to hear from you whenever you can write.
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QUESTION: I'm back. This week was very hectic. But filled with a lot of tears. Wednesday I found the strenght to run from the clinic and called Respect Life that got me a cab and took me to their office. There they prayed for me and got my mom to let me keep the baby. I've always spotted maybe once a week but it was very little blood. That night it was more so we called the doctor she said I'd be fine. The next day when I went to the ER they told me that I grew the sac for the baby but no baby was there. I cried all the way home. I feel like I did all this fighting for nothing. I dont understand why the baby didnt grow. Did I do something wrong? Why does this happen?
AnswerHi, Jameela,
I am glad to hear from you. I am also glad that your mom had a change of heart. That was wonderful! Was Respect Life with you when they did the ultrasound? I'm always a bit leery of some of these, because they don't always see what's there. If you are bleeding more, then something isn't quite right. Ask the doctors to be conservative in their treatment of you. Why did this happen? We don't always know at the time. Perhaps this was to help your mother change her heart. I am very sorry things have taken this direction. If there was no baby there, then although things are difficult, they aren't impossible. It's hard for me to put into words what I am thinking. But I hope you get the idea. Please let yourself grieve anyway. Then make sure you eat well and take care of yourself. Hopefully someday you will be a mother.
Yes, these things do occasionally happen. Nobody knows why.
I had a situation, and talked to a doctor I trust, and he said, as long as there is bleeding, but no pain, you don't have to do anything.
I will continue to pray for you. I love you because Jesus first loved me.
You now have the opportunity to help others, and to do what you know is right. You will probably know why these things happened to you, but probably not right away. That's the way it has been with me. I don't get the answer right away. So many of the things that happened to me had a bearing on my life, but they also help me to write to women now.
Take care, and write back anytime.
