QuestionHi Becky,
I am in love with a woman who is 6 yrs older to me.I am 29 and she is 35 yrs old.We have dated for 1.5 years. She has stood by me and waited for these years even when I had lost my job and had no clue when I will get a new job. Today I have a job and want to marry her in a few months. But my parents are totally against it and that incudes my sister who is 31 herself.
My Gf thinks that she is getting late for a kid so we need to hurry soon. She also fears that I might leave her after a few years.
Can you also tell me in biological sense what does a woman's body go through that I should keep in mind ( having a baby, etc,etc)?
I am very stressed though I should be happy that I got back my job in these recession markets.
Looking forward to your help.
Thanks
SD
AnswerDear SD,
Hello to you all the way to India! I am sorry you are having difficulties.
The Indian culture is very different from how the American culture is when it comes to questions like yours. In America, I would tell you what difference does it make what your family thinks ... it is your marriage and your life. I am not sure if that would play well in India, but I don't care what culture you are in, when you grow up you want to BE grown up. Growing up means being mature and making decisions that in your own best interest, and not decisions that will please your family. Anyway, your sweetheart is not that much older than you. Six years is really nothing in the scheme of things, and statistically you die at around the same time -- this is good!
As far as biologically, I am not a medical doctor, so I am not the one to ask. I am a woman, and there really is nothing to know. Your sweetheart will be able to have babies for another 15 years or so, so I wouldn't worry about that right now. I do think doctors recommend that she do it sooner rather than later, however. Statistically babies have a greater chance of being healthier the younger the mother is.
I hope this helps you ... good luck!
Doctor Becky
