QuestionHi Lilly,
I think that the pain that she felt was a result of size compatability. Since the first time, we have had sex a number of other times, though not to the extent as the first, but I'll get to that in a moment. She has not commented on any other pain, but I have been going really slow and being as gentile as possible. A new question that you may have knowledge about: The first time we had sex, we were both drunk, having had celibrated. Since then, we've both been sober when having sex and the question has to do with my longevity. Last night I came upon penitration. We waited a few minuites and tried again. I lasted a bit longer, but not as long as expected. I think that since I am new to sex, I am not used to the sensations and will become more acustomed to the feelings as we continue to have sex. She is being very understanding about it, so there is no problem there, and to answer your previous question, she was not a virgin. I know this is a common problem, but is it normal for a 23 year old? Any thoughts or suggestions? Thanks for all of your help,
Nick
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I'm not an expert, but as far as I know, she was sufficiently wet. There was a bit of foreplay before hand. Since I first asked wrote you, we talked about it again and she said that it did hurt when it was happening and there was a second time, but it didn't last nearly as long as the first. also, since the first time, we've had sex agian, but it didn't last as long and I was much more gentile. She said it didn't hurt when in the morning this time. There was though a but of pain when I first entered though. Any other thoughts?
Nick
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My girlfriend and I had intercourse for the first time a few nights ago and in the morning, she woke up to severe pain in her genitals. At first, she thought it was either a reaction to the condom or it was an infection. I don't think she is alergic to the Latex because this problem has not come up in the past. Also, she said she has had infections befor, but they wern't this bad. She said the pain was unbarable, like a severe burning or cutting. She spoke with a friend of hers who is a nursing student and she said it may have been my size. My girlfriend said that I was the largest person she has ever been with. Have you ever heard of this before? Is there any way to work this out without causing her any more pain? Any suggestions or thoughts would be very appreciated. Thank you for your time.
Nick
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HI Nick,
actually I have aquestion for you, was she really wet before you went in? and did you have intercourse more than once in that same scenario? reason I am thinking is she wasn't wet enough and the friction caused irritation and if you did have sex repeatedly the friction from the comdom and the spermacide just really did a number on her. This is not to mean no more spermacide or condoms but she really needs to be really wet especially if you are as large as she says. LEt me know.
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Hi again,
was she a virgin, sometimes the pain on the first contact could cause a lot of problems to. Also sorry it took so long I have a stomach virus. Just continue to be gentle and wait for awhile between sex acts and use some sort of lube like KY jelly or astroglide, this may help also. Do mucho foreplay and make sure she is really wet before entering. Let me know again how it goes. thanks
AnswerTry this when you get the erection do not insert for intercourse let it subside and become erect several times. This is part of foreplay and will intern help get her really wet and aroused and another thing to try is to masturbate beforehand and ejaculate earlier in the evening without her, then when it does come time for sex you won't have that dire urgency that you must ejaculate now and will last longer.
