QuestionI have had 4 previous c-sections, first two times attempted vaginal.My first child was breech,then six weeks later pregnant with second, a drop in BP both was cause for second , third one was about 1 1/2 years later and during that one I had bled out for 45 min. Then nine months later I was pregnant again, the last one I had to have a blood transfusion during the surgery. I had my tubes tied after my 6 week check up. I was told I had uterine atony which was the reason for having all by c-section. I am 28 years old divorced and am currently engaged and would so love to have a child with my fiance who does not have any children,I am thinking about getting my tubes untied to try again, I spoke with my OB who is willing to do it, but I'm still a little unsure of the risks. I do not want to seem selfish and run the risk of leaving my 4 children behind, but yet I want to give this man the gift of a child and share with him the joys of parenting. How high are the risks and what exactly could I do to ensure a better pregnancy and delivery? Also would you do it? After all Ethel Kennedy had about 11 and that was back when technology was not as advanced as it is now.
AnswerDear Brandi,
Wow! This really is a personal decision which should be thoroughly discussed between you, your current husband, and your doctor. You need to know what you are getting yourself into. Even if the tubal reversal is successful, which success rates for tubal ligation reversal can vary from 20-70%, you likely will have the same experience as before - needing blood transfusions, etc,...
I understand what you are feeling about the gift you are wanting to give to your husband, but I'm not thinking he would trade you for that gift. That's not to say that he would have to, but knowing what you went through before, you do know the risk is there.
Every woman is different and Ethel likely did not have any complications to endure. Some women can pop babies out without any trouble whatsoever, while others...if they don't have one thing go wrong, it's another.
As I said, it's a completely personal decision and should be made after very careful consideration and with lengthy and well-informed conversation with your doctor. I cannot tell you what I would do, as I've never been in your shoes. I had C-sections. I did not try a V-back after the first, simply because I knew the risks of uterine rupture and other complications. I tend to lean to the conservative.
I wish you wisdom and guidance in your decision making about this. I hope I helped a little.
Brenda
