QuestionI just went to my doctors appointment yesterday, and they said that i was 8 weeks pregnant. They stated that they seen my babys sac but no baby. I am very confused. They want me to have a D&C July 23. But I was reading that i should let it happen natural. Emtionally I am crushed and i don't know what to do.
AnswerHi Janese
Sorry for the delay in answering your question, I went away for the weekend & set my vacation dates wrong!
Firstly, I'm sorry to hear about your news. A blighted ovum is when the embryo doesn't develop properly or at all, therefore leaving an empty sac. This is often not picked up until bleeding starts or it's diagnosed via a scan. Blighted ovums are the most common miscarriages (& often in 1st miscarriages) & it's believed that abnormaities which develop at conception means that the embryo would never have grown properly. This is usually due to an old or faulty sperm or egg but many couples go on to have a healthy baby the next time around. It can leave you feeling really cheated. I had one myself and know how upsetting it can be.
I hope this has shed some light on what has happened & why.
As for your desicion on how to let this pregnancy go, the choice is purely yours. Most women choose to allow the pregnancy to end naturally. I chose this, but at nearly 11wks 'pregnant' at the time, I wasn't prepared for the amount of bleeding I had. It also started suddenly when I was out. I passed a majority of the pregnancy naturally but ended up having to have a D&C as there was some tissue remaining which made me bleed heavily.
So you can make a well informed choice, I've made a list of fors and againsts for both ..... I hope this helps.....
The Natural Choice:
Pros:
You're allowing nature to take it's course.
Most doctors will give the go-ahead to start trying after your first natural period, as long as all has gone well.
It allows you to take control of your care, you can do this at home.
Cons:
May result in your body not expelling all the tissue, which will usually need surgery.
Can be distressing when large clots/amounts of tissue is passed.
Some women wait weeks for bleeding to start.
Surgery:
Pros:
Can be done within a couple of days of diagnosis.
Gives you a good 'spring clean' to rid your uterus of any tissue, therefore giving you a fresh start.
After surgery, you may have very reduced or no bleeding at all.
Cons:
Some women feel uncomfortable with it as it's the same procedure used for a termination.
It's done without guidance, so some tiny fragments may remain & cause bleeding.
It's done under a general anaesthetic which means a short stay in hospital.
Possibility of infection from procedure.
Doctors recommend that you wait for 3 natural periods to allow the lining of your uterus to build up sufficiently.
I hope these help you make the right choice for you. I really do wish you a speedy recovery & every success in your next try. If you're finding things hard, it may be worth visiting your doctor & asking to be referred to a counseller.
It's not easy but time will make things more bearable, I promise you! :)
Kindest Regards
Sarah
