QuestionQUESTION: Hi,
I was wondering why the choice for abortion is often seen as the best choice. If a woman is unable or unwilling to care for her child, then why not encourage adoption. Some families are unable to have children, and would be over-joyed to have the opportunity to adopt the baby. Why should the life be denied the chance to live. I think a woman who choses life is very strong, and will ultimately feel relieved and happy about the decision she made. The newspaper is filled with people looking for a child to adopt, and they are often willing to take care of the financial responsibilities of birth. I can't see any reason why abortion is a necessary choice, so i was hoping maybe you could help me with that. -Thanks
ANSWER: Hi
Because going through 9 months of pregnancy, and the experience of labor and birth is enormous, it impacts you forever, and it's extremely difficult. Well, only white babies get adopted. The 169,000 children waiting to be adopted are mostly black, disabled, or over the age of 6. And, it's not a woman's responsibility to provide a child to a completely unrelated couple. Their trouble is not hers. There's a reason so few choose adoption. It's hard, very hard. More than me or you could ever comprehend. And going through pregnancy when you don't want to? The guy can just walk away, but the woman will deal with the stigma, the discomfort, the sickness if she gets it, the huge changes her body will go through. Many women still feel sad after adoption for the rest of their lives. Maybe a couple got a kid, but I don't see what's good if a woman is left with sadness and depression. Also, carrying a pregnancy while you're working and/or in school is no simple task. So why it's unfortunate for those couples, the woman comes first.
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QUESTION: I can see your point, and yes I realize how race might come into the equation, but wouldn't you rather be an orphan than be aborted? If it were you, what would you want your mother to do?
AnswerConsidering how I wouldn't be able to comprehend what was going on or that I was alive, I wouldn't care. And I'd want my mom to make the decision that's best for her. Being an orphan isn't fun. You're in the foster care system until 18 then they send you on your way, little to no support. I'd much rather never have existed (since I wouldn't have known I was even in existence) than be stuck in a cold, unwelcoming world.
