Navigating an Unexpected Pregnancy: Options & Support for Young Parents

Question
Hi, I'm almost 18. I just recently found out I'm almost 8 weeks along. I have a son who's 18 months old and my bf is currently unemployed but has an interview. He is supportive of keeeping it and he seems committed to it but I don't want to bring a child in this situation. We're being evicted and moving into his mom's house. They are both supportive. I just don't think that this is helpful to my bf that he'll maybe drop out and work too much and he'll loose each other. I want to family plan for our next kid because I know he really wants a second child and I do too but it's like now isn't the right time. I'm too poor for two kids. I want us to reach our dreams and goals before we have another child. But I know it hurts him the longer I stay pregnant and he gets attached. it's been almost 2 weeks and he really has been there supportive but at the same time I feel like I am wrong to abort when he is so good that he'd be such a good dad and I know it would be better to wait but I wonder what it would do to him. I also feel guilty about the fact that I saw the ultrasound and I know it's heartbeat has already started. Also I have came a long way with coping with my last abortion in the last days. I think I need this abortion for us to have kids at the right time. I think I am ready for my procedure tomorrow but how do I get my bf ready I still haven't told him I made the appointment yesterday and how do I make myself ok with aborting this far along?

Answer
Hi jennifer :)

Well first, you're not far along in the pregnancy, at all. 25% of all pregnancies at this point self abort. Sit down with him, and tell him what you told me-this is the best choice for yourselves, it allows you to give your resources to one kid for now, and allows planning to make sure your next child has the best start possible. As painful as it may be for him, he should think about what kind of standard of living the child would have if you didn't abort.

Here are some excellent resources I cannot recommend enough:

http://www.4exhale.org/

http://community.livejournal.com/abortioninfo/profile