QuestionIm six weeks pregnant and i want to terminate it. Where is the best place to go? a Gynecologist will be good right? I have decided to abort this baby because of my future. My boyfriend is ready to support me both emotionally and financially. I prepare surgical Abortion though cos i heard it is the safest. How can i tell if this is the right person to do this with. And please help me with possible side effect so me and my boyfriend can prepare for it. Thanks very very much
Barbi
AnswerHello, Barbi,
I can't recommend anybody at all. The reason is because there are NO doctors who do abortions that I would trust with your life and health. Abortion is unethical and unsafe. No doctor who truly cares about you would ever do an abortion on you for any but the gravest of reasons. Doctors are required to observe the following principle: "First do no harm." Abortion is VERY dangerous and harmful. It can kill you or render you seriously disabled. I do tend to agree that surgical abortion is "safer", whatever that means. It just means that pill abortions are so much more dangerous. However, surgical abortion can harm your future children in serious ways. Whether or not pill abortion does so isn't known at this point. And at this point, you're close to the limit when a pill abortion will even work.
What is it about your future that makes you think abortion is a good solution? What if you never HAVE a future? What if the abortion kills you or paralyzes you? It happens. Maybe people think it doesn't happen that often, but all it takes is once. The complications don't respect the woman, or how much she thinks she wants an abortion. A lot of the carnage is being swept under the rug. More women are dying today in my country from legal abortion than died from illegal abortion, every year. By several times.
How can you tell if it's the right person to have an abortion from? If he will agree to do the abortion, he's the wrong person! You need someone who will regard you as a person, a human being, a woman, and respect your right to be free of this terrible invasion. It's a Catch 22, I know, but that's the reality.
Many abortion facilities don't even pass the simplest health inspections by the local health authorities. They are filthy. Often their autoclave doesn't work. Abortionists re-use disposable instruments. I once watched a movie of an abortion being done. It was supposed to be a movie showing how safe and desirable abortion is. I was sitting next to a nurse. Together, we found SIXTEEN breaches of good surgical procedure.
I personally had a visit from an abortionist while I was in the hospital with a medical condition. I didn't know who he was. He lied to me, intimidated me, and expressed real anger against me when I wouldn't let him do the operation he wanted to do. The operation would have killed my baby, who was still very much alive at that point. And he didn't even mention the word "abortion". I didn't find out that I was still pregnant until several days later, and when I did, I had horrible, horrible nightmares for months afterward. I wouldn't wish these nightmares off on anybody. And lots of women who have abortions experience them. In fact, the chance a woman will commit suicide after abortion is six times what it would be if she carried to term. What if you had an abortion and you lost interest in your future? It happens, many, many times.
I care too much about you ever to recommend you have an abortion. You deserve better. And don't think you can't pursue your future if you have a child. I am living proof you can. I have managed to realize just about every dream I have ever had. Sometimes it was a challenge, and sometimes I had to wait awhile. But I have done all the things I wanted to do in life and then some. The only thing holding me back from doing more now is lack of money, and that has nothing to do with the fact that we had children. In fact, some of the things I have learned and done were a result of having had children. My life was very, very enriched by them and by the fact that we homeschooled. As a result of having children, I now read 15 languages, I have a good understanding of the law and can hold my own in a courtroom against just about any lawyer, I have an extensive background in Sonoran Desert herbology, I learned several new art forms, I learned to play two new musical instruments, and I have a second degree black belt in taekwondo. I also have nine grandchildren, whom I love dearly. The love exchanged among our children is phenomenal, and a great inspiration to me. None of this would have happened if I hadn't had children. I won't go into the details at the moment, but believe me, every single one of these achievements were prompted by something our children and I did.
Let me know what kind of future you are seeking, and I'll help you see how to have this future in spite (or because) of your pregnancy. Please take care of yourself. Don't take this horrible risk. Stay safe. Let me know how you do.
