Questionhello me and my girlfreind of 7 monthes have just found out shes pregnant tonight.were so scared and lost we dont know what to do,shes adament she doesnt want to bring a baby into the world if she thinks i dont want one just now,weve spoke about waiting a couple of years then trying again but the thought of the abortion ruining our chances of ever havin a kid is really heartbreaking.Im 24 shes 22 i already have a 4 year old girl and a 2 year old boy to a past relationship,my girlfreind understands this,weve decided on going to her gp on thursday to have a more depth look into our choices,she last had her periods a month ago,so were thinking shes 3 or 4 weeks into it.i just dont want to see her hurt.hope u can help us thank you.
AnswerHello, chris,
I am so glad you asked!
Abortion is very dangerous and can kill a woman. It can also cause her serious injury or hurt her future children. Pill abortions can cause a woman to bleed to death, or to develop toxic shock syndrome, which will kill her within hours. There is no known treatment once she develops symptoms. Surgical abortion can result in death from hemorrhage, damage to internal organs, reaction to anesthesia, and infection. It can cause a woman to be unable to conceive ever again. This is about a 10% risk. It can cause a woman to have repeat miscarriages. It can cause very early birth, which is a leading cause of cerebral palsy, autism, mental retardation, epilepsy, blindness, and deafness. It can cause complications at the time of birth of a future child, requiring a Caesarian section to save both lives. Caesarian section is the leading cause of death from childbirth. We don't have any idea what a pill abortion will do to a woman's future children. Both types of abortion can cause breast cancer and auto-immune diseases such as lupus and rheumatoid arthritis.
If a pill abortion doesn't work, she may need to have a surgical abortion to save her from infection, which subjects her to both sets of risks. Or, she may end up having a child with microcephaly and foreshortened limbs, which means serious mental retardation, and the child's facial muscles may be frozen so the child cannot even smile.
If that weren't enough, the emotional repercussions can be severe. A woman's chance of committing suicide is 6 1/2 times greater after abortion than it would be if she carried to term. Other causes of death can be accident (women get careless because they have lost heart), homicide, and drug or alcohol abuse. It can cause eating disorders such as bulimia or anorexia, and self-abuse such as cutting. It can cause sleep disorders, such as horrible nightmares. I still remember the nightmares I had, vividly, and it is 30 years later. I wouldn't wish these off on anybody, not even my worst enemy.
And it can destroy your relationship. About 90% of the time, this is what happens.
It's not a question of whether you want a child now or not. You HAVE one, and that baby needs protection from both of you. Abortion is forever; you can't take it back. This web site is where I read the heartbreaking stories of so many women who have had an abortion. Your girlfriend also deserves your protection. She deserves better than abortion.
There are organizations in UK that can help you with whatever problems you currently face. To find one near you, please go here:
http://www.optionline.org/
Don't expect your girlfriend's GP to tell you these things. A lot of them don't even know it because it is kept carefully hidden, and some of them don't care. I get this information from medical sources, and from doctors who have studied this issue throughout their careers.
Please keep her and your baby safe. Please keep in touch and let me know what happens. Take care.
