QuestionQUESTION: Is it true that post abortion care increase immorality?
ANSWER: Hello, Emos Klin,
Your question isn't very specific. The availability of abortion increases immorality. Are you suggesting that we should let women suffer the consequences of abortion rather than helping them? Most women do not choose abortion freely. Either someone or something coerces them, or they have been told abortion is safe and that there is no human being which is killed.
What have you heard about post abortion care increasing immorality? Perhaps if you tell me a little more about this, I can give you a better answer. I personally have never heard of such a thing.
---------- FOLLOW-UP ----------
QUESTION: I meant that many women would rather go for an abortion without
fear of its consequences because of the post abortion care
that is offered.is this not going to increase immorality?
AnswerActually, I would say it's the availability of abortion itself that increases immorality. Since so many women believe that abortion is harmless, they wouldn't be thinking about the aftercare. I don't know what women believe in Kenya, but our powerful leaders and the media here present abortion as harmless, with no medical consequences. They're working women, perhaps, and they think they can have an abortion on their lunch hour and go back to work in the afternoon. Even women who think they personally would never have an abortion seem to think subconsciously that it's available, and everyone's having sex, so they go ahead, and then afterwards they will say, I never believed in abortion, but now that I am facing this situation I have no choice. The availability of "protection" also fuels this behavior. But the underlying problem is spiritual, I think. It's the idea that we must please ourselves, first and foremost, that we don't owe it to anybody to live a chaste life. Or it's men taking advantage of women who didn't get the love and nurture at home which they should have gotten. Or that having casual sex, and abortion, are women's rights. It's a lot of different factors. There's a reason why sex outside of marriage is, or should be, frowned upon. It's because sex makes babies, and babies need two parents who are committed to each other, and in the casual situation, any babies conceived won't have that. These are currently people who want the fun without the burden. A lot of it is because women are taught, growing up, that there is something wrong with you if you say "no".
All the aftercare in the world won't help if abortion injures a woman fatally. And so often, it does. I'm getting word from leaders who know that a lot of women in India are bleeding to death after abortion, for example. I have the privilege of knowing some very knowledgeable people. And I would be shocked if I haven't talked to at least one woman here who subsequently bled to death!
If there is anything I wish I could tell the women who ask questions here, it is that they shouldn't put themselves at risk in the first place. I would say, if you do sleep with someone and get pregnant, don't START an abortion. The pills are dangerous. They kill. Women come to me after the damage is done, and I can't do anything about it. If they will see a doctor, they may recover, but a lot of them can't afford the kind of care needed in the first place. In order to save a woman's life, a doctor may have to take her uterus, and she is going to have much difficulty finding a man to marry if she can't have children. And in some countries, people count on their children to take care of them when they get old, so the woman will be left with nothing, destitute. But the companies that put together these medications and sell them to women don't care. It's one less person who can produce babies! A lot of them want to reduce the population. And a lot of women, at least here, think in terms of, "It can't happen to me". They use a condom or something, or they don't know what the risks are, and they take a risk and get caught.
Perhaps in Kenya, women are thinking in terms of the aftercare, but I really think that this is only one of many ways a woman can rationalize putting her life in danger for some temporary pleasure. And I know in a good many African countries, HIV is running wild, and the encouragement to use "protection" is only aggravating the problem. Only in Uganda is the rate of HIV dropping, because they're emphasizing abstinence. And abortion doesn't do a thing to cure HIV; in fact, it makes a woman more vulnerable.
I like to use the analogy of water skiing. That's a wonderful sport, but if you do it in winter when there is ice on the lake and snow on the ground, you might catch pneumonia. So do it in season. Likewise, sexual activity. You have your whole life ahead of you. Plan for the future. Don't just think of today. People in this country, at least, are very poor at looking at the long term consequences of anything. So I come here and answer questions, hoping to help each woman in some way. Women are being victimized by abortion, and I want to do my small part to help prevent or fix that. And often, I feel so helpless. In some cases, the situation is so bad that if a woman doesn't get an abortion, someone will probably kill her, and I mean literally. I'm here for the women, and each one of them touches my heart. We deserve better.
That's my opinion, anyway.
