QuestionQUESTION: hello,
i was reading in one of your answers that you belive that
(" What this means is that it is unlikely that your baby will survive and experience deformity. Either he or she won't make it, or be fine)"
do you think if a baby survives the abortion pill that there is some hope of a healthy baby?
i did a abortion with the pill on June 24 i was 4 weeks pregnat.2 weeks later i found out with ultrasound that i am still pregnant with that pregnentcy.at that time i was 5+3 so i did a another ultrasound 3 days later to see what happend and i was 5 +6 so it did develop 3 more days in 3 days.but with everything i read online and what Dr. tell me i should do a d@c because the baby will not be normal.do you think, or have you ever known of a baby who made it through all that ok?
thank you for your time and answer
Daniela
ANSWER: Hello, Dianiela,
Nobody really knows for sure that everything will be fine, not even in a normal pregnancy with no abortion attempted. Mothers worry about their babies. It comes with the territory. That said, in that particular case, I was talking to a woman in a particular set of circumstances at a particular stage of pregnancy. I wouldn't put too much stock into the idea of transferring it to your own case.
Here's just my opinion. If all you took was Mifeprex, then your wisest course of action is to try to persuade the doctor to treat you with progesterone. If he is unfamiliar, you may be able to find someone else who is willing to try it, by finding a local organization that helps pregnant women. You can find one by going here:
http://pregnancycenters.org/
You can also get a better opinion on your chances of the baby being normal.
The information I have is that the deformity I know about is more likely to happen if the woman only took Cytotec (Misoprostol), which is the other drug used in a pill abortion involving two different drugs.
When you were 4 weeks pregnant, did you calculate from your last menstrual period, or from the time you probably conceived? This is important. If it was from the time you probably conceived, there is a chance that your baby was too old for the pill abortion to work well. The pill pretty much stops working by seven weeks. In the few days before that, there is a fairly high percentage of cases where it doesn't work.
Now the other question you are asking is if you should have a D&C because your baby might not be normal. Well, there are a couple of ways of looking at that. Let's assume for the sake of argument that the baby has a problem. At this stage you won't be able to tell through ultrasound. So you would be choosing to have a D&C in case the baby has a defect. What if the baby is normal? Most likely, the doctor will never tell you. They wouldn't want to get sued. But it's still a completely unknown situation. Whether or not there is a problem won't really become evident for several weeks.
Suppose you had a baby sister who is 3. She developed some kind of problem that only manifested itself when she turned 3. What would you do to her because she isn't perfect? (Obviously, none of us is perfect, but there are degrees, and we usually make the best of whatever situation we are in.)
Do you really want to complete the abortion at this point? Or do you want to do so only if there is a defect?
Now suppose you continue with your pregnancy. There are three possibilities. Either your baby won't make it further down the line, or you will give birth, and if your baby isn't normal, you have two choices: to raise your baby, or to put your baby up for adoption. If your baby isn't normal, you CAN choose adoption. There are people who are willing to adopt a baby with a defect. In fact, in some cases, there is a waiting list.
So here is what I recommend. Find your local organization, get a doctor who is knowledgeable, talk to him, and find out more about your particular situation, and see if he can treat you and give you a higher chance of having a normal child. Also, find out about the success they may be having with adoption in your area.
There is the possibility that you could choose to raise your child. Having a defect doesn't mean the child won't be a valued member of your family. I have a nephew with Down syndrome, and he is precious! He is 19. In fact, I am jealous of my sister because she got him and I didn't. You'd have to have this experience to know what I'm talking about. A lot of people think that Down syndrome is so undesirable that they just want to do away with the baby who has it.
You have a lot of decisions to make, it sounds like. You must also take into account that abortion is dangerous for you. You could suffer some serious consequences, or even be killed. So getting some counseling from your local organization would be very important. They won't encourage you to complete the abortion, but they will give you some real information.
Yes, I do know of women who have had a normal baby after a pill abortion. We will hope for the best for you, and I will pray for you both. Let me know how you do. I hope this helps.
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QUESTION: hello
thank you for your fast answer.i was 4 weeks counted from the first day of may last m period.it was so early they had a hard time seeing something with the vaginal ultrasound.and the medicine i was taking is the one,you take the mifeprex in the clinic and 6 to 8 hr later you take the second set of pills in your home and let it dissolve between your gums and lips.i was bleeding after that for about 3 day,light.
thanks again
daniela
AnswerHi, daniela,
Thank you for helping me know the correct spelling for your name, and for the very kind rating.
From what I am learning, you may have taken these pills too early. Also, they wanted you to take the second set of pills much more quickly than they usually tell women. The clue to the situation is the fact you bled lightly. If it had produced results, you would have almost certainly bled more heavily. Also, the fact it was so early does indicate that it will tend to be an all or nothing situation. Either your baby won't make it, or he or she will be fine. While there are other possibilities, the odds are in your favor.
Go and see one of the doctors recommended by the organization in your area. Please let me know what you find out. I will continue to pray for you. Take care, and please keep yourself safe.
