QuestionQUESTION: I was wondering if 1 twin baby could be missed in an MVA abortion? if the abortion was done at 6 weeks, isnt it possible that twins could be undetected at that stage? If still pregnant, could the baby be kept and survive, or would another abortion have to be done?
ANSWER: Hello, Bella,
What you are suggesting is quite possible. If they got one baby, and missed the other, it's perfectly possible that the surviving baby is OK. Unless that baby is no longer alive, there is no need to intervene, absent some kind of symptoms indicating a problem. They'll be able to tell how that baby is doing, and if there was any damage, by ultrasound, before long. How long has it been since you (I assume) had the abortion? What would be the reason you suspected twins? MVA can miss a single baby as well, and a woman can go on to have a normal child. Babies are small enough at 6 weeks after the last menstrual period that abortionists don't always find them.
I recommend you find a doctor who is used to handling high risk pregnancies and get good prenatal care. If they see anything, then a pediatrician or neonatologist who is also experienced in handling high risk babies would be a good idea. There are organizations in New York that help pregnant women, and they have good doctors affiliated with them. One of the things you have to be careful of is the possibility that a doctor who likes the quick fix will tell you the surviving baby has a problem, and try to coerce an abortion. This is why it is vitally important to find a doctor who knows abortion is unethical and is bad medicine, and who doesn't believe in it. Such a doctor will take good care of both mother and baby. There are some things that may be more difficult as a result of MVA, but it is quite possible for a woman still to have a normal and healthy baby.
If there is a problem, it is also quite possible and even likely that the baby will be dearly loved and cherished. Children who have to struggle more to achieve are often cause for great celebration at every developmental milestone. They can bring great joy. If the parents do not think they can raise a child with a particular problem, there are people out there who would love to adopt the baby. There are many early intervention and training programs out there that greatly help parents.
These organizations of which I speak also will have information about such resources. To find an organization near you, please go to this web site:
http://www.optionline.org/
Let me know if you learn more about this situation, and keep in touch and let me know how things go. Take care.
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QUESTION: Thank you so very much for answering my question.
Firstly, I did have the abortion (quite recently, Friday July 21). I made a quick decision to do it after informing the father and his reaction not being too positive. I definitely did not think things through and I wasn't even sure how I felt about it all i just wanted to get it over with because I was hurt, upset and confused. I was told that I'd be put to sleep and have no memory of the procedure and would wake up as if nothing happened. Which is all true. But I must say days later I was very emotionally disturbed by it all..
To be honest Im hoping the procedure did fail somewhere along the way and I will still be pregnant..
I suspect twins because my partner is already a father of twin girls (which is why he reacted the way he did to my pregnancy, he already has 2 children he cannot totally support because of a bad situation with their mother AND should I have his baby he'd already have at least 3 kids at only 24). Also, when I took my home pregnancy tests, the results were suggestive that I had high HCG levels. I've heard that this is common with multiple babies. I was frantically posting a picture of my pregnancy test results online looking for reassurance and at least 1 woman said she had the same sort of results when she carried multiples. Essentially what happens is, since the test is testing for the pregnancy hormone, if the HCG levels are high, most of the dye in the test is used up on the test line, which preceeds the control line. (i used a First Response HPT).
Other than that I just felt really pregnant. I obviously know pregnant is pregnant but I felt PREGNANT. I assume if you have more than 1 you may feel things more severely.
Your answer gives me high hopes but I still do not want to get my hopes up because I have been bleeding off and on since the procedure which is normal, but means that the remaining contents of my uterus are leaving. The same day as the abortion when I got home I did pass a clot, and I remember looking at it thinking "is this the embryo? :(
With all this said, I know that I will still be able to have children when I am more prepared, but it would truly be a miracle and something that was destined to happen if by some chance my very first pregnancy were to continue..
AnswerHello, Bella,
I am so sorry that you had an abortion you didn't want. It makes me angry when men coerce women. It is very easy to do because a woman is emotionally vulnerable when she first becomes pregnant, especially if the circumstances aren't great. More women are coerced than women who choose freely.
Given what you have told me, I definitely urge you to find an organization near you. They will counsel you for the grief you are feeling, and help you to develop a sense of peace. A baby surviving abortion isn't all that common, so don't get your hopes up too high. Just take good care of yourself, and see what happens. You can test weekly for pregnancy. The test will probably show positive at first, but if no baby survived, the line will get fainter with subsequent tests.
Yes, carrying multiples does make a woman feel more pregnant. But it is not always the case that a woman who has an abortion will be able to get pregnant in the future. An infection could prevent it, and there are other things that could happen. If scar tissue forms over the Fallopian tube openings, for example, a woman may not be able to get pregnant, or may have a tubal pregnancy. With MVA, infection is more likely because the apparatus is hard to clean.
I will hope and pray for the best for you. Please get some counseling right away, and keep in touch. Take care.
