QuestionQUESTION: i am 28 and a month and a half pregnant, i don't want to keep the pregnancy i just discovered afew days ago after i missed my period. I had an ultra sound and the doctor was horrified because he couldn't locate the baby and had to do a pregnancy test because my uterus is full of fibroids.
He says he's worried he won't have me abort because i may bleed to death due to fibroids. I am scared, lonely and confused, i am catholic and the pregnancy is a mistake, what shall i do? could i really die? and can my doctor remove the fibroids during the abortion too? My right side really is painful and my fear is creeping, is their hope?
ANSWER: Hello, peace,
It sounds like you MIGHT have a tubal pregnancy. You need to get help right away. If your doctor says you should not have an abortion, LISTEN to him. You have a medical condition that makes abortion deathly dangerous for you. You should be thankful you have a doctor who cares enough for your life not to take such a chance.
It is against the Catholic faith to have an abortion as well. The emotional consequences of violating your faith can be significant.
Go wherever you can get IMMEDIATE medical attention, and ask them to look for a tubal pregnancy. If the pain suddenly stops, your life is in immediate danger and you need an emergency operation. But they need to make sure you do not have a tubal pregnancy. If they do not operate on a tubal pregnancy, it will kill you. And if you have a tubal pregnancy, you don't have to worry about being pregnant and not wanting to be. The operation for a tubal pregnancy will remove the baby. The baby cannot survive.
If you do not have a tubal pregnancy, you need to find a better answer. Abortion won't give you peace of mind. It won't solve the problems you are facing.
Please let me know what happens. Please, don't take this chance. Stay safe.
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QUESTION: I am set at ease by your answer, thank you. i still have a query though, the first time an ultra sound was done, they said the baby was outside the womb, four days later i went back and they said he was in the uterus although they really didn't see him,how can they say where he is without seeing him? they said they couldn't locate him since i was full of fibroids. I feel a mass at times on my right side and at times in the middle below my belly, that's the pain and issue that took me to the hospital. i will see my doctor tomorrow and ask him if indeed its a tubal pregnancy.. Dear me i hope i don't have to keep the baby, i am jobless and in no way able to bear the shame or support him, i will let you know what happens and if they do the ultra sound tomorrow...Oh and there was a heaviness in my chest earlier today, almost like my breathing was being blocked, i didn't get checked but i am better now.
AnswerHello, peace,
Thank you very much for the rating and the kind words.
I hope you mean you will see your doctor "today" (meaning, Wednesday). This needs to be dealt with immediately. At six weeks, you don't have much time before there would be a rupture, and once it ruptures, it becomes a lot more complicated and dangerous to deal with a tubal pregnancy. The fact they thought the baby was outside the uterus to begin with is also a warning. The fact that you felt heaviness in the chest also indicates abortion would be a very bad idea. So please do NOT delay, and get some medical help.
Better to experience shame than be killed by an abortion. Abortion won't fix a tubal pregnancy anyway, and when an abortionist misses a tubal pregnancy, it can kill the woman. I have a close friend who almost died for this reason.
If you are unable to take care of a child, you can choose adoption. There should be an organization in Greece, near you, that will help you with whatever problems you face. Ask in the local churches, and ask them to help you find the help you need. Can you talk to your mother about this? She may be very helpful. She will probably be upset at first, but very few mothers remain unsupportive.
Please take care, and keep in touch.
