QuestionMy fiance and I have decided on a guest list of 100 people. This includes family (brothers, sisters, parents grandparents aunts and uncles) friends and some coworkers. As of right now we have 104 including ourselves. Thats okay... but my mother has just informed me that 15 of my cousins from out of state are planning on coming which also means if they come, my cousins from local areas are going to have to be invited (this is @ 20 more people). This wouldn't be a problem BUT we are having dinner and paying per head. I don't want to hurt anyones feelings but we just can't afford these extra people.
My question is how can I let these uninvited people know that I had not planned on their attendance? I don't want to insult anyone but I have NO idea what I should do. PLEASE HELP.....
Tammie
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Inviting an extra guest to someone else's wedding is somewhat rude, so in many cases you may have to risk offending some people.
You must also keep in mind that with additional invitations of one guest actually equates to two because your cousins will more than likely want to invite a guest to accompany them.
You can make the call or the "person who invited them" to state that unfortunately, you just can't accommodate any more than the "x" amount of guest (come up with a specific number) that have previously been invited. Now some may offer to pay for the extra dinners (and many do), hold your ground if there is a venue cite maximum occupancy law or you fear too-large of a wedding guest list that will not accommodate your wedding cake (that is also a factor).
It is your special day and you want all of your guest to experience the day to the fullest, if you stretch the list beyond your capacity it will take away from your other quest so you shouldn't have any regrets of your own.
