QuestionIm having a baby in 2 mos. and i have a two year old. My boyfriend and i have been together for 9 years now. I try and try to talk and work things out, but he either tells me to shut up, f-off of his favorite word "whatever". I dont know how much longer i can keep trying to work it out. He drinks to much and puts me down constantly. He wont go to counsiling. Should i throw in the towel or keep fighting for the relationship?
AnswerHi Amanda~
Don't waste one more moment in this relationship. As tough as it may be, you really need to get out of this unhealthy relationship. Be glad that you aren't married to him. First off you don't deserve to be treated the way you are, by being called names, around his drinking, etc. If not for yourself, then get out for the sake of your 2 yo and unborn child. They will see how he treats you and then they'll think it's normal to be treated like this. They will also have a high chance to be in an abusive relationship too. I don't think you want that for either of your children. It's simply not worth it. You're worth more than that.
He doesn't respect you one bit or he wouldn't talk to you the way he does, put you down, expose you and the child to his unhealthy drinking issues either. A person can only take so much of something before they eventually break. The question here is when is your breaking point? It's better to get out now, since you realize that it's highly unlikely that he'll change his behavior anytime soon, if ever?!
You can't make a person change that refuses to change. You can only control yourself and how you let ppl treat you. Go with your heart and do what's right for you and the children. You deserve to be happy. It's never easy starting over, but you can do it and ultimately be happy, and not miserable as you are with him.
If you have any questions please feel free to ask.
