Question
I am puzzled and need an expert's point of view. I am a single woman in an affair with a married man for the past 2 years time, things are a little different. He is a great man , respected and loved by most people Since the affair he has been incredibly supportive, loving, stable, and highly available. He cares for everything I do. He stimulates my mind and forces me to challenge myself professionally. Anyway, not at all the typical married man 'sleaze' that I had been accustomed to.He ahs 2 kids. His married life is full of troubles. his wife doesnt support him and like him no respect nothing. He loves me alot. Now, since last year he is telling me that we will marry soon. but whenever we plan for this something comes in our between.But this man is true
My question is: Should I wait for him ?? or is he making me fool by giving these excuses?
please help me.
AnswerPreeti:
The bottom line on affairs is that they almost always end in pain, hurt, and damage to relationships.
Without knowing anymore than you have shared with me, my advice to you is to get out of this relationship. I know it will be painful but you have to look to the future. And a sad reality is that, even if you do marry him, 70% of second marriages end in divorce. If he will cheat on his current wife, what makes you think he won't cheat on you? What if he is cheating on you right now with a third woman?
Preeti - get out of this as soon as you can and permanently sever all future contact. There is simply no other way.
Good luck and peace to you.
