QuestionI heard that significanct age difference between a wife and a husband (the latter being the older)is essential for a good marital life. This is because the sexual drive of women dissipates much sooner than that of men. Is that really true? Generally speaking, at about what age do you think women lose their drive significantly to such an extent that they either don't care of making love or even hate it? How does that affect marriage then?
AnswerHi Tesh,
Thanks for writing. I don't know where you got your information, but what you heard is absolutely not true. I don't think you can throw men and women in a box and say all of them are a certain way. Still, I'd like to address your ideas one-by-one:
1. Significant age difference between spouses is essential for a good marital life. This is hogwash. A good marital life has to do with emotional maturity and interpersonal compatibility. There is nothing about age between the two that is an essential ingredient to a marriage working.
2. Women's sex drive dissipates sooner than men. Again, you cannot throw genders in a box in this way. It varies from individual to individual. Some men and women are never very interested in sex and some are very interested their entire lives. Studies have shown that men reach their sexual peak at age 19 while women reach theirs at around 38-years-old, but again, this is not the case in all people.
Some of the happiest sexually active beings are our senior citizen population, both men and women. Most people feel at least somewhat sexual their entire lives.
I hope this information is helpful to you. Take care.
Doctor Becky
