QuestionQUESTION: Now I am a student of IT sector will be placed sooner in a IT company.MY fiance is very short tempered.He doesn't like private job like that.He believe in only govt job.I think this is meaning less.He always try to put me down with everything..Means according to him I am a loser.He runs gold business.He always try to keep me under his feet.He is also very possessive.He doesn't like if I am with my friend circle.For that reason I am totally detached with my friends.I even cant give any suggestion or advice regarding any issue.He thinks he is the best and superior in every decision and he is right on this but many times he is not.He shouts on me on a small issue,neglect me.Sometimes I get angry and unable to hold this kind of pressure.I can't break this relation because I love him a lot.Our marriage is fixed for next year.please help.
ANSWER: Your husband is doing what he observed his father doing when growing up. To help him, you could get him a book (digital if necessary) to study to learn more about himself.
Excuse me for recommending that in order to understand and heal childhood patterns affecting adult life and relationships, that you get a copy of this resource http://www.amazon.com/Effective-Counseling-Skills-therapeutic-statements/dp/1442
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QUESTION: actually his father is very quite and clam person..my fiance is not like my would be father in-law. i am really in dark what should i do so that his anger become low down.please help me.i am in very tough situation.
AnswerMaybe your husband was spoiled and lacked discipline as a child or perhaps he followed his mother's aggressive personality. He needs to embark on a path of self-awareness, and for that I recommend he read http://www.amazon.com/Effective-Counseling-Skills-therapeutic-statements/dp/1442
