QuestionHello, i've written you a few times now in regards to getting pregnant tips. Now I came across another issue. I have a daughter. I got pregnant with her after only one try. It was'nt planned, but I wasnt on BC, and indeed I became pregnant after one slip up. I know my body, and I normally have no problem getting pregnant. However, my boyfriend doesnt have any children. In fact he never even gotten a female pregnant before. When does the issue of him being fertile play a part in things not working in our favor. Should that be a concern? Or is it normal for a healthy, 24year old female, with a child, normal 28day cycle, that indeed ovulates, to just not become pregnant after trying for almost 7 months? I dont want to give up hope, but the anxiety every month along with the disappointment is becoming too much for me. What should I do?
AnswerDear Lena,
Well, you may have to look at this as a consideration. I'm sure it may be a touchy topic, but it may be the source of your difficulty. You just won't know unless testing is actually done.
You could start by asking if he had ever had unprotected sex before and if that ever was an issue. If he has had unprotected sex in the past and has never produced a child, then it is something to look at seriously.
If he truly is concerned about this difficulty as much as you and wants to find out the source of the problem, maybe he will be willing to have a sperm count done. If nothing else, maybe he will go in with you to talk to your doctor about it and that can be suggested. If the doctor suggests testing your ovulation AND his sperm count/motility, then he won't feel singled out. You know - the man thing...
If it is becoming too stressful for you, you need to make an adjustment somewhere. I would suggest either talking to him or talking to your doctor about it first and then him with your doctor. You know him best...
I hope this helps a bit. Be well.
Brenda
