Understanding Pregnancy After a Medical Abortion: A Personal Account

Question
Hi. Well here goes. My boyfriend (now ex) and I had unprotected sex for about 4 months last year. I got pregnant in June, took multiple tests, some of which were negative, some positive. The bloodwork confirmed pregnancy at my OBGYN, and my boyfriend told me I had to have an abortion. He's a doctor in residency, and was finishing his intern year. I really didn't want the abortion and felt manipulated by him. So I took the first pill at the office. I was only 3.5 weeks along, so mifepristone and misoprostol was an option. After the first pill l had second thoughts. I felt it was the wrong decision and I told him I didn't wnt to take the misoprostol. I decided not to, and he flipped out. So I told him I took it. My baby is healthy despite warnings not to stop the abortion half way through.  Needless to say the fighting and stress of the ordeal led frank to end the relaionship and we didn't talk for months. I saw him finally for breakfast in october and then recently just a week ago. I had to wear a forgiving shirt because I am showing (only slightly which seems weird to me). The thing is , I don't think there is any chance he and I will e together in the future. And he certainly isn't father material if he runs when there is stress. My family is 100% supportive and has agreed to help me financially, but I've been considering adoption as well. Basically, my question is, should I tell him the truth if he is essentially no one in my life now? He had a rough childhood and bad relationship with his father - parenta divorced and he has many emotional issues because of this. As much as I resent him, I still don't want this to be his first "fathering experience" ... And unless he becomes someone important in my life over he next few weeks I don't forsee telling him. Legally is this wrong?

Thank you.. I wasn't really sure where to post this.  

Answer
Hi Amber,

This isn't legally wrong. If I were you I would tell him, one of the main reasons is that if he were to find out in the future, it might cause bigger problems for you and your child. If you tell him now, he will have time to get used to the idea and then make his own decision as to whether he wants to be in this childs life or not. I wish you the best of luck!