QuestionQUESTION: Hi, when me and my girlfriend get marrie dnext year, we are going to use NFP, and by using NFP, how many times a month, can me and my wife have sex to avoid pregnancy? and we want to have several children just not right away.
ANSWER: My recommendation is that you find someone to help you learn the NFP program. Most often, the local Catholic Church will have a teaching couple or someone there will know about a couple who can help you learn NFP. It is a good idea to get started before your wedding day so that you both know what to look for and can work together.
In general, if she has a 28 day cycle, you may be able to make love about 10 times per month, but you have to learn when those 10 times will be and that is based on her normal cycle.
Try this website for some people to call to get an idea of who might be able to help you in your area: ccli.org this is the organization that trains teaching couples who then offer the course in the area where they live.
Best wishes on your upcoming wedding!
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QUESTION: well, will use NFP, and we want people to use NFP as well, but their arguments for using birth control is thta they cna have sex more than 10 times a month is that true? and couples who use birth control are they really have sex more than 10 times a month? what are the stats on that?
and what about condoms, what are the stats on that? I just want convince people why its better to use NFP
AnswerThe amount of sex married people have is not something I can find statistics on. The challenge with NFP is that you won't be able to have sex every weekend, or twice a week or whatever your preference is. Those 10 days are usually at the end of her cycle so you have to spend the middle of her cycle in abstinence waiting for the end. Kind of like what you are doing now, waiting for the honeymoon, you have a honeymoon every month.
condoms are not reliable, they break, they come off and and then you don't know what your fertility situation is so you end up anxious instead of peaceful and content after sex.
NFP gives you great information about fertility and health. When you love someone you want the best for them and that is what NFP is. the best.
Check out that website or this one: http://www.nfpandmore.org/
There will be good arguments that you can use.
