QuestionQUESTION: i lost a baby on march 3, 2006 and now march is coming up around the corner and it has been 1 year i have not gotten my period and 2 years i only got it for like 2 months. i am really frustrated because my husband and i are trying to have a baby and i just don't know what is wrong with me. can you help me
ANSWER: Hi Eliza,
I'm so sorry to hear that you're having such a difficult time. It's hard enough having a miscarriage, but to add insult to injury, your cycles are practically non-existant.
Any woman whose cycle is longer than 34 days sometimes needs help, but as you've only had 2 periods in the same amount of years theres definately an issue. It's very likely you are not ovulating.
What happens during a cycle is an egg ripens in your ovaries. A hormone is produced which releases the egg & tells your womb to start building a lining for it. Once the egg reaches your womb (unfertilised) you will then bleed. If you aren't ovulating then your womb isn't being told to build up, hence no period.
I would go straight to your doctor. He or she will then be able to investigate the problem further and give you some answers. The good news is there are lots of good medicines which can stimulate ovulation and help you on your way to your next pregnancy. It's a good chance to have a health check and make sure your in good stead to carry your baby.
I wish I could shed a little more light on things but it could be one of many, even something simple such as a hormonal imbalance. The most important thing is to get proper medical advice so you can get the best possible chance of concieving. It may take a while to pinpoint the problem, so in the meantime look after yourself.
I wish you the best of luck. If there's anything else I can do for you, please don't hesitate to contact me.
Kindest Regards
Sarah
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QUESTION: my husband and I are 21 and have no insurance or medicare to be able to afford the medical attention I need. since the miscarriage my body is totally different I gained lots of weight and I cant give my husband his pleasure because I just don't want sex anymore. so much going on and I honestly need help do you know what I can do to get the help that I need?
AnswerHello Eliza
I'm based in the UK and I do know that some countries have private medical care - I can only assume that you reside in one.
I think the first thing you need to do is find a way of affording medical insurance. Your health is so important and with your current condition, you really do need to see a medical practitioner. It sounds like your hormones are really scattered. Do you have any sort of advice offices there? We have something called the CAB where you can get free advice on any matter.
Another alternative is (if you have them over there) to speak to someone in a health food shop or herbal pharmacy. There are alternative and herbal remedies which people swear by. The assistants here are trained, so again its down to availability where you are.
There's a good piece here:
http://www.gettingpregnant.co.uk/homeopathy.html
I don't know if the rest of the website would be any good, it may be worth a look.
I'm not an expert on alternative remedies but they do have a good category on here:
http://www.allexperts.com/cl2/173/Health-Fitness/Alternative-Medicine/
Someone with a little more knowledge may be able to help you find the right remedy.
You do need some sort of treatment. You certainly can't carry on the way you are.
I'm sorry I can't be of much more help, but i do hope the links I've given you will point you in the direction that you need. Please don't give up hope :0)
Kindest Regards
Sarah
