QuestionI'm a female and 17 in two months time. I have been dating this boy and we have become very close. A week ago we both lost our virginity to eachother. We did use a condom, what is the success rate of using a condom alone?
Also, i wish to go on the pill. My mum is strict about no sex in high school and i have asked her discreetly if i could go on to regulate my period and she said no. She thinks you should know someone for a year before having sex and i have only officially dated this boy for two months. Should i wait two months until i'm 17 to ask her even though we will have sex during that time? I'm worried of what she will think.
AnswerThe condom is not very reliable as birth control and does not always protect against sexually transmitted diseases. I would recommend considering "second virginity" which is not having sex again. This prevents worries, pregnancy and/or sexually transmitted diseases.
Although you don't want to hear this probably, I agree with your mom that you should take a little more time before having sex. The pill is not always 100% effective in preventing pregnancy either. Why are you in such a rush to have sex? Is your boyfriend pressuring you? Just curious. If you want to talk more, email me at DWooley97@aol.com so hope to hear from you soon.
Diane W.
