Setting Boundaries: How to Handle Unwanted Advances in a Relationship

Question
hello my name is kelly. Ive been dating a guy that is 19 now for 2 years. He has been begging me to have sex with him and i don't want to. He came over to my parents house and only me and him where home. Im might be to much of a tease. Well he kept getting on top of me being really pushy. Well i don't know if i went to far but i told him to stop and he kept pushing and pushing. Well he pulled his stuff out right in front of me out of know where being really sick acting getting almost mad. I yelled at him and he kept begging me. I didn't know what to do so i reached down and grabbed one of his testicles and squeezed to get him off. He yelped and grabbed my arm and then was begging me to let go and that he would stop. I told him that i would let go if he left me alone and just left. He agreed and took off. I did not know what to do it kinda scared me. Did i do the right thing. What do you think? Should i be with a guy like that or is he just trying to use me?????Thanks kelly

Answer
Hey Kelly,

I think you did the right thing! I'm glad the situation happened like that. Some guys have been known to rape the girl in a situation like that. Don't ever allow a guy to come to your house or get you alone without your parents or other people around. And don't tease at all. Don't allow a guy to do any kind of sexual activity that could lead up to that because that is teasing.

Don't let him know when your parents are home. In fact, maybe you should let him go and just be by yourself for a while and find out who you are.
Let me know your other thoughts. My private email address is CHERYL51@aol.com so hope to hear from you soon.

Diane Cheryl