QuestionHi, my names Samantha & I'm 19 years old, I wasn't quite sure what category to put this in as the 'teenage pregnancy' didn't have any experts. Anyway, I'm 19, I'm in a very strong, happy relationship with my boyfriend & have been for about a year & a half, he's almost 22 by the way. He's the most amazing guy I've ever met in my life & he honestly does have a heart of gold. For a couple of months now we've been talking about having a baby, we both really want one so bad, there's just a few things that's making us both a bit undecided about having one; first of all, we're both living at home with our parents still, second, I'm only at college & have a part time job, he however works full time as a Mechanic & thridly, which is the main reason I'm scared of getting pregnant is because of what my parents would say. They've always said if I came home pregnant they'd kick me out, everyone has told me they wouldn't do that but I'm just scared of their reaction. My boyfriends parents are a lot more understanding as they have a daughter who got pregnant at 18 & I think they would be a lot more suportive than my family would. My brother & his partner had a baby last May & he's 23, but they have their own home so it's not as bad, my mum & dad can't get enough of their new Grandson & my brother keeps telling me that they'd be the same with my baby. Me & my boyfriend are constantly talking about this & some days we think 'yeah, let's just go for it' then others we don't. We feel so ready, we both love children & we're both great with them, we both have neices & nephews & we've got friends who have a baby. All of our friends have said they'd support us & help us in any way if we did decide to go for it. I feel I am mature for my age & my boyfriend is too, we're not the sort of people who go out partying & getting drunk every weekend, in fact, we hardly ever go out in that way, it tends to just be cinema & meals etc. It's nearly everyday we talk about having a baby, at the moment I do have the contraceptive implant in my arm so it is unlikely for me to become pregnant but we often talk about going to have it removed so we can start trying. I know they'll never be a right time to have a baby, there never is & all I keep thinking is 'lifes too short' we want a baby more than anything at the moment. What do you think we should do? Go for it or is it not the right time for us?
Thanks!
AnswerHi Samantha,
Thanks for sharing your story. I would really advise you to consider getting married and getting a place to live before you consider having a baby. Are you in school or have jobs? Let me know. I'm giving you my private email address CHERYL51@aol.com so email me there. It's nice to want to have a baby but it really is a lot of responsibility and you don't want to make your parents or others take care of your baby. So please email me so we can talk more. Hope to hear from you soon.
Diane Cheryl
