QuestionMy situation has came as quite a shock, I will make an effort to make a long, complicated story as short as possible. My ex and I have recently gotten back together which came as a surprise because I honestly believed I would never have another chance with him and I am very much in love with him but due to my actions I have all but lost his trust (I have not been involved with anyone else since the day we got back together.) However, I had sex with another guy whom I had dated during the time my ex and I were apart about 2 months ago (can't remember the exact date, we were drinking and it was a one nighter.) Anyway, now that my ex and I are back together I end up testing positive on a home pregnancy test (a nightmare turned reality.) It is breaking my heart, I am not the type to sleep around and desperately wanted a family and marriage with my current boyfriend, not this far-from-my dream loser. Furthermore, I did test negative on a test at a doctor's office in Homewood, Al about two weeks after my ex and I got together then about a week and a half to two weeks later I tested positive. Is it possible that this baby belongs to the one-night stand guy and that the first test was just too early to tell? Or is this baby my boyfriends child (which would be the answer to my prayers) this is ultimately going to make my decision as to whether or not I am going to keep it and it is tearing me apart. I want a baby and a family with my boyfriend, I do not want him to have to deal with this and it is going to destroy our relationship once and for all. I have been told that if he truly loves me he will stay with me regardless but to me that sounds absurd and unfair to him. Even though keep in mind I was not cheating on him and could not have possibly for-seen our reuniting. I need some sort of opinion on who's it may be or at least know when I can find out for sure. I am undecided on what my final decision will be, however, this is killing us. It is my honest opinion that the negative test would have shown positive if, in fact, the one night stand guy was the father, but I am unable to completely rule him out as a possiblity.
AnswerDear Melissa,
I agree with you that your boyfriend would not want to bring up another man's child, but that is just my opinion. You know him better than I do.
I need you to carefully reconstruct a time line for me so I can help you figure this out. I need to know the date of your last period, the day it started.
Next I need to know the dates you had sex and with whom. (As close as possible to the exact date, I realize you can't remember exactly.)
Next I will need the dates of the pregnancy tests you took. Pregnancy tests are not reliable unless you wait until you have at least missed your period after the sexual activity you fear got you pregnant.
From this information I will tell you my best estimation of who the father is.
Write back,
Deb
