Questioni have recently had an abortion but it went wrong and ended up having to pull it out with my hands with my nurse, i seen everything its eyes nose, hands fingertips, its was horriable. and its been about 1 weeks and my partner hasnt been in touch and i have recntly found out he has been sleeping with my best mate for 2 months and has got himself a new girlfriend i need help i havent got anyone to lean on and am keepin it all in i dnt know what my life is leading too please help me
AnswerMy Dear Rachel,
My heart aches when thinking of the horrible pain and sadness you must be feeling. I can't even imagine the awful thoughts and memories you must be experiencing right now.
If you need immediate counseling and assistance and are afraid that you may hurt yourself or others, please call 1-800-395-HELP(4357) - I have to say this, just in case you are in a particularly bad way.
Let me say first that you MUST get some counseling to help you deal with your terrible abortion experience. FORGET ABOUT YOUR RELATIONSHIP PROBLEMS RIGHT NOW...YOUR PSYCHOLOGICAL HEALTH AND HEALING ARE MORE IMPORTANT AND THESE OTHER PEOPLE WHO OBVIOUSLY CARE NOTHING FOR YOU ARE DEAD WEIGHTS ON YOUR LIFE. I can't stress this enough. Move on from this man and this so-called "best mate" and take care of YOURSELF and work to honor the memory of your aborted child, whose humanity you witnessed with your own eyes; the caring eyes of a mother. The eyes of a mother were never meant to see what you saw.
Please go to your nearest Crisis Pregnancy Center. I'm not sure if you're in the U.S. or not.
If you are in the U.S., please email your city, state and zip code to me at
mthompson6887@nycap.rr.com
and I will email you back with a couple of phone numbers to call.
If you are outside the U.S., please go to your local telephone directory or online search and type in "Abortion Alternatives" to find a counseling center. Many offer free post-abortion counseling, and I know they can help you with your particularly harrowing experience.
I know that this experience has forever changed your mind about abortion, and I hope that someday, you can use your experience to warn other women about the horror and danger of abortion, not only to innocent unborn babies, but to the mother's psychological and emotional health for the rest of her life.
My heart cries out for you at this very moment and I am praying for you as hard as I've ever prayed for anyone.
I hope you can feel the warmth of the blessings that I've asked God to send to you. He wants you to heal. He wants you to talk to Him.
Please email me privately at mthompson6887@nycap.rr.com to talk more in-depth.
With sorrow AND hope,
Michelle Thompson
