Questioni have already wrote to you about a different situation,
this time i have a question on were i stand in my situation and is there anything i can do
my situation started on December 16 when i told my school nurse i was pregnant, i only told her for some support and to ask if it was safe to do transplanting in pe. when i told the school nurse she said she wasn't the one i was spouse to talk to and she told 3 other teachers that i was pregnant before telling the teacher that deals with the situation. i talked to the teacher and the first thing she said she cant help me with my choice with what i want to do but she advised me to tell my mum, basically she was saying you have to tell your mum or i will make you in a really nice way, so i had no choice and i told my mum when i got home, she acted better than i thought she would seeing as she didn't know i was having sex, i asked her not to tell my dad but she said she had to, so when my dad got home she told my dad and he did not take it well. he took it so bad he made my mum less sportive than she was with my problem, later on my mum said that my boyfriend had to tell his parents by the end of that night or they would find out by the police, so he told his parents. and then later on that night my mum and my boyfriends dad had a long talk on the phone, and my mum had said that my dad was so mad he doesn't want me seeing my boyfriends any more or talk to him and that I'm grounded so in the hole holidays i was stuck in the house hadn't seen any of my friends or relatives, my mum things its the worse thing to do as it made me more upset because i was pregnant and alone but my dad did not see that, because it was so close to Christmas and me and my boyfriend had already bought each other presents she decided to take me to his so give them to each other but it was only for 5 mins. i talk to him some times on the phone part from that one day i did not see him again till the day of the surgical abortion when i asked my mum if he could be there and i said i wouldn't be able to with out him so she said yes (my dad does not no this) after my abortion i have been very depressed and upset and not being able to see my boyfriend has made it allot more worse and harder on me, it doesn't help that I'm still grounded. my mum says she will ungrounded me when she can trust me again but she never ever said to me don't have sex or about contraception (which we did use). its got to the point where i want to run out the house catch a bus to go see him and get in so much trouble just to see him one more time. and I'm crying every day at night and during the day and i cant sleep cause when i close my eyes all i think of is the abortion and not seeing my boyfriend, I'm scared I'm going to have bad depression problems (my mum has them) and its just eating away at me.
. my question is was the school aloud to do what they did
. how can i get my parents to see what they are doing is making it worse for me
.can depression run in family
plz write back xx thanks xx
AnswerHi Kim,
Remind me what other situation we were talking about. I have a terrible memory. I am sorry to hear your story. I don't think that the school nurse should have told other teachers if it was supposed to be confidential. Can you talk to the principal about it or a counselor?? I don't know what else to tell you but I do think the school system didn't work out very good.
You can go to http://www.silentnomoreawareness.com and find some resources to help you. There are links to find out about depression after abortion and other problems. Maybe there is something there to help you in letting your parents know your suffering and real feelings. Please email me at DCHERYL51@yahoo.com and we can talk more. I have a lot to say but there is not enough time or space here.
Write soon.
Oh, yes, in my opinion, depression can run in the family. I don't know if it is genetic or just the whole atmosphere of the family unit.
Sincerely,
Diane Cheryl
