Question I contacted Child Protective Services about the two year old girl's actions and they declined to make a judgement based on what information I gave them, but wanted the name of the family, which I refused to give. If they had agreed that I was correct in my suspicions, I would have given them the name but I sure wouldn't turn that agency loose on a family without being sure that there was something wrong. I then asked another opinion which follows, which deeply offended me and implies that I have a dirty mind and shouldn't be around children. In my day, proper conduct alleviated a lot of problems, but obviously not any more.
This is the answer I received from another:..........
There are many things that children do. Sometimes they ride on top of you while you are on your back and ride you like a horse. In some cases, men who do not have any relationship to those kids get erections because of constant rubbing (though untintentional)done on their penises. This is fairly normal. It will become a problem when we start to interpret it in a sexual manner. Personally and professionally, I doubt if there is anything sexual to the behavior of the child you have mentioned. Your problem lies within you. There is a possibility that when you started to interpret the kids' behaviors sexually, that act has influenced your total perception of everything that they do with you.
It is good that you distanced yourself from them now. Your relationship with them maybe bothering you and it would be the best option before any untoward incident happens between you and the kids or even between you and their parent."
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I watched a seven year old girl crawl all over her mother's boy friend and ride his leg. I expressed my displeasure at such conduct but the mother shrugged it off. This gentleman broke up the ladies family and I feel that if he had a modicum of morality he would have discouraged the girl from crawling on him. He is now the girl's step father. I suggested to the mother that she takes the girls aside from time to time and ask them if anybody has touched them where they shouldn't or been over affectionate. The mother also shrugged this off. With all the molestation being reported now days, I believe that it is better to be safe than sorry. Am I wrong to worry about the little girls. Is the mother too indifferent to what might be going on that could be harmful to her girls.
The seven year old's three year old sister is really a very beautiful little girl and when I was still friends with the mother, one day at church I was sitting in a back pew and the mother, boy friend and seven year old went to the front to perform a musical number and left me alone with the three year old. She came over to me (on the seat) on my right side, put her left arm around my neck and played with my left ear while kissing my right ear and cheek. She then put her right hand deep into my pants pocket, pulled it out and grabbed my right hand and sucked on my finger. All the time she was pumping her pelvis against me vigorously. She stopped almost as quickly as she started and I was told that she had messed her pants during the incident. I was absolutely dumb founded as I have been around children for years, but have never had this happen before. I wonder if this is normal for a three year old or if someone has been playing games with her. Her mother again shrugged this off and felt I should have been flattered that she was so attracted to me. I felt as though I was being sexually assaulted, but it's hard to believe a little girl could be sexually aggressive! If this little girl does this to the wrong person, she might be compromised and harmed.
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You are right... that clearly is not normal behavior and I think you have a moral duty to report that incident to your state children protective services department.... I know that sounds frustrating, but that is a very worrisome behavior.....
Answerpeople can make lots of excuses... yes, someone could be "stimulated" against their will and get an erection.... but that description you gave me is worrisome and I would give the name of the family and let child prot services investigate... even tho you hear some horror stories, "turning that agency loose" is an improper concept... they are there to do the job that needs to be done-protect the children.... if it causes embarassment or inconvience for a family, that is the imperfection in the system, but the stakes are too high to risk leaving a child alone that is being sexually abused... kids that age don't learn this stuff from TV
