Pregnancy Concerns: Irregular Periods & Potential Conception - What to Do?

Question
Dear madam,

Iam rachitha 22year old from hassan(India ), till january i hav reguler periods of 30 days, thogh it was irregular during my 16,17 years,in january it was 40 days cycle.

in february 17th we had sex it was first time to me, last period was on january 18th, before was dec 8th, and yet the day i hav no symptoms of my period, it means am i conceive ???

if iam pregnent how can i confirm that in home ???

if so is there any mathods of doing abortion without surgical operation, ??? because we are in india and my family members will kill me if they came to know this,

please help me sir,

iam much gracefull to you for hearing my problem,
i hope iwill get  reply as soon as you check this,

i beg u to please help me madam, please...

thank you.

Answer
Hello, Rachitha,

I assume you are pallavi as well. But earlier you told me you had sex on the 14th.

There are pregnancy tests available you can do at home.

There is no SAFE method of abortion, as I told you. If you try it, your family will probably find out you were pregnant and tried to have an abortion. Then they will be just as hard on you as if you hadn't. That is why I gave you the contact to talk to. They have clinics in different places, so contact them and ask for the location nearest you. Don't let the fact that Bangalore might be far away stop you. There are other clinics that may be closer.

I can't help you hurt yourself. I won't do that. I could get into a lot of trouble if I told you to do something dangerous. It would also be unethical for me to help you hurt yourself.

You are in a state of panic. You are trying to make a mistake you will regret the rest of your life. Women don't make good decisions when they are in a panic.

You are probably not pregnant anyway. I suspect you are suffering either from stress (from fear) or from malnutrition. Try to take it easy. I know that's hard, but you're not helping yourself by worrying so much.

I will have to go to bed now, but I will pray for you, and keep you in my thoughts. Please don't hurt yourself. None of the things women normally use is safe. Not one. And like I said, if you have a complication, even excessive bleeding, your family will find out anyway. Go to the local clinic instead. They will help you find a better answer. They will also help you talk to your family.

I have been in the position of having grandchildren born out of wedlock. I love them dearly. And I love their parents dearly as well. So I speak from experience when I say you need to give your family a chance if you are pregnant. If you are not pregnant, you know you need to refuse to have sex until you are married.

Please take care of yourself and keep in touch.