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Ok, so my parents are HARD CORE Catholics and are always on my back about Jesus. They told me that if I ever get a girl pregnant and allow her to have an abortion then my soul would go to hell no matter what and they would give up on me. I figure if they give up on my soul they will finally lay off me. So I asked my girlfriend to let me cum in her with out a condom and then to have an abortion. She says she doesn't want to get pregnant, even though I told her I'd pay for the abortion and everything! She always tells me that she loves me and that she would do anything for me, but she says she's afraid to do this! How can I make her have an abortion? Should I threaten to break up with her if she doesn't do it?
AnswerMike,
I normally try to be polite and kind, but frankly, your message made me see red! You have NO RIGHT to even ASK that of your girlfriend. You don't deserve her!
Abortion is dangerous. It could kill her or make her into a paraplegic; it could cause her to become unable to talk, or go into a coma. It could cause her to develop breast cancer, and her chances of dying from that would be 25%. It could cause her future children to develop cerebral palsy, autism, epilepsy, mental retardation, blindness, or deafness. It could cause her to have a tubal pregnancy, which would require emergency surgery to save her life. It could make her sterile. It could cause her to commit suicide, take chances resulting in a fatal auto accident, or abuse alcohol or drugs, develop anorexia or bulimia, or engage in self abuse such as cutting. It could cause her to bleed to death, or develop toxic shock syndrome, which kills within hours. It could cause her to have to have a hysterectomy. What can you be THINKING asking her to do something like that?
It's really her decision anyway. You don't have any right to impose that on her. Stop trying to use her. She is a human being, and she deserves someone who won't ask such a thing of her! She may love you, but clearly, you don't love her. If I could talk to her, I'd tell her to DUMP you.
As for what your parents said, they're not entirely right. Jesus does forgive people for being involved in abortion. However, we aren't supposed to tempt God by deliberately disobeying Him. In order to get forgiveness, you have to repent. Your parents shouldn't be pressuring you like that. Believing in Jesus is a choice, and cannot be forced. It's your choice. You can tell them I said so. (You can also tell them that I have been in their shoes, and I KNOW you can't force your children to believe in Jesus, and I would never push Catholicism on them, either.) But that said, your quarrel is really with them, not your girlfriend. Don't make her pay for your dysfunctional relationship with your parents.
Find another way to get your parents off your back. Don't force your girlfriend to be involved in such a thing. It's your responsibility to treat her right, and what you are proposing is about as far from that as a person can get! Shame on you! Leave her alone. She deserves someone better, and the biggest favor you could do her would be to break up with her. Let me know when you have done that.
