QuestionMy girlfriend had a pregnancy about 4 weeks ago, she went to an abortion clinic, and took the pills. but also took the 2nd pill late. She had light bleeding for 2 days then was back to normal.
Wr had unprottected sex a few days after she had stopped bleeding and we took another test a few days later. Still saying possitive, could she have been caught again. She is now about 8 weeks. Can someone help please?
AnswerHello, John,
First, I should tell you that the second pill they give is being taken against the express instructions of the manufacturer, who writes that the pill should not be given to a pregnant woman. This is because it can kill her within hours, and there are a couple of ways this can happen. So your girlfriend was lucky. I consider it malpractice when a doctor gives this pill against the instructions of the manufacturer.
You didn't say whether your girlfriend was 4 weeks from the time of probable conception, or from last menstrual period. If the former, there's a good chance it wouldn't work anyway. If she is eight weeks, she should have some kind of physical indication. She should have sore breasts, still. If she isn't too overweight, she can lie on her stomach and feel a lump where her uterus is, probably. At this point doing a medical abortion again wouldn't work at all. A lot depends on what her hormone levels are as to whether this is the original pregnancy or not. You can consult a doctor on that.
John, abortion is dangerous. You really shouldn't be putting your girlfriend at risk like this. It could cause serious permanent damage. It's your responsibility to keep her safe, and you shouldn't be entangling her emotionally with sex unless you are prepared to cherish her and her children, and take care of them. Aside from the fact abortion could kill her quickly, she could also die a violent death in the year following abortion. The risk is heightened by several times. It could be from suicide, homicide, auto accident, or any number of other ways. Meta studies have shown that this risk remains heightened for about eight years. A lot of women will suffer a silent grief that they feel they can't talk about, and it can be devastating. Not only that, but abortion can make having a normal pregnancy and birth in the future very difficult to impossible. Abortion can also cause a very early birth, and this fact alone doubles the risk that a woman will have a child with cerebral palsy. It can cause a woman to develop breast cancer when she is in her 40's. If she has a history of breast cancer in her family, and this is her first pregnancy, this is a virtual certainty. Sex is for making babies. The momentary pleasure you two experience isn't worth the potential heartbreak.
There are other ways to express affection, and learning how to do this can be very enjoyable. Remember that if you penetrate into her body anywhere, you are also putting her at risk for a nasty disease, and many of these cannot be cured. You may also be putting her future children at risk. If you really care for her, please protect her. Don't rely on condoms, either. They don't work. If you don't really care for her, please don't use her for your own pleasure. Think about what you would do if she refused to have an abortion. If you would want to get out of the situation, no matter how that affected her, you don't have the necessary commitment to her.
If she is still pregnant (or pregnant again), there is help available to face whatever complications this causes in life. To find an agency that will help you, please go here:
http://www.heartbeatinternational.org/worldwide_directory.asp
There are well over 200 agencies ready and willing to help.
Please also keep in mind that having either an abortion or a child without the kind of commitment your girlfriend deserves and needs will compromise her future and the future of her children. If she is pregnant, she deserves the right to have her child. Please keep her safe and take care of her.
