Questionhi,
i had finished reading some of the letter from your blogs.and want to share mine too..i am turning 28 this year,and really eager to have a baby soon.but before that i want to share my craziest and stupid things that i did in my life,mid month last year i abort my almost 2months baby i am not prepared that time and really worry that i might go to jail if they find out that im pregnant that time,though i am willing to go home to my but my contract in uae is still not finished!by that time,i was so scared to do it,but i did!and i really regret about this..now i and my bf are having difficulties to have a an angel again.now i would like to ask you if ever ill go to doctor and be check is the doctor gonna fin out that i did drop my baby even few months since its happen?please help me
AnswerHello, mary,
Thank you for writing. I am very sorry that you went through that in the past, and are now experiencing regret. There are people who are available and willing to help you work through the emotional issues of what you are experiencing. Are you currently in UAE, or in Germany? There are no organizations in UAE, but in Germany, you can find an organization that provides this help by going to this web site:
http://heartbeatservices.org/index.php/connections/worldwide-directory
A couple of the organizations don't really have any information, so I can see what I can find out for you if necessary.
Please know that I care, and I am here any time you need to talk. I can talk to you from my perspective, and perhaps that will be helpful.
Whether or not a doctor can tell you have had an abortion depends partly on what kind of abortion you had. If you had a pill abortion, I am told that a doctor wouldn't usually find out. A surgical abortion may have left damage he can observe. Let me know what kind of abortion you had. This will also help me to have a better idea of why you are unable to conceive at this point. If you are in Germany, you don't need to worry about being arrested. If you are in UAE, you might want to wait for this until you return to Germany. I also don't know if they would arrest you in UAE if you are German. But in general, I don't think it's really a problem. I can't tell you for sure, but it seems you should be able to work around it.
God loves you, and wants you to be at peace. I will pray for you. Please take care. Emotional healing is possible. Just take one day at a time, and work through everything. It takes awhile. Feel free to write any time, and I will be happy to discuss what you are experiencing.
