QuestionI had a surgical abortion in Feb. I was almost 4months Long. It was the worst decision i ever made, being that i have had 2 previous abortions (both went smoothly and were at an earlier stage of the pregnancy)all 3 are within a 3year period. ( iwant to be detailed so you can see my fear). Its been almost 3months since the last one, and i get little sharp pains in my abdomen. I never really noticed it before, but lately its very obvious, not necessarily excruciating, but its very obvious. When i wear tight pants it hurts a little, when i do vigourous activities, the cramps tighten. I am sooo scared, i want to have my own children, but i am scared i have scared myself. Is this normal?
AnswerHello, susan,
Are you having any other emotional problems as a result of your abortions?
It is very common to be afraid after having an abortion, or three. In fact, abortion is such a deep invasion of a woman's body, I would be surprised if she didn't have some kind of emotional reaction. Nearly everyone does.
Pain is almost always a sign of something being abnormal, so the fact you have pain means that you need to investigate. You should go to a doctor. Don't go to anyone who was involved in providing abortion to you. They won't be able to admit they hurt you.
Unfortunately, about half the women who have three surgical abortions will never have any children after that. And there are other consequences, which may be delayed. And even if a woman conceives, having had an abortion in the past can hurt that baby. You are now in a high risk category, and you will have to be very careful if you do manage to get pregnant in the future. You have gone into a cycle of getting pregnant and having abortions, and the more abortions you have, the more damage you do to your body. You need to stop doing this. If you do get pregnant again, you need to carry the baby. You should also avoid running the risk of getting pregnant until you are ready to have children, which means no sex until you are married. I hate to tell you, but the chances you haven't damaged your body in a significant way are very small. Please go to a decent doctor and have him look you over very carefully. Don't go to someone who thinks abortion is acceptable. Abortion is medically unethical, and no doctor who has good medical judgment will do one on a woman except to save her life. I wish I could alleviate your fears, but they are fully justified, unfortunately.
You are in my thoughts and prayers. Feel free to write any time you need to talk, and take care of yourself. Stop taking chances. You deserve better.
