QuestionQUESTION: Hello,I am 21 years old and I had un-protected sex with my bf on the 6th and 8th day of menstrual cycle. I took the morning after pill on the 8th day and my average menstrual cycle length is 30 days and I wanted to know if there is any chances that I can still get pregnant.
ANSWER: First of all, you took a dangerous and toxic pill in case you MIGHT need it. Why? You need to think about this before you do something else to endanger your own body. You deserve better.
Here is more information about the "morning after" pill:
http://www.optionline.org/questions/#need-to-know-about-the-morning-after-pill
You didn't say how long ago you took the pill. This is important. By now, you might even have an idea whether you might have gotten pregnant. Since you didn't take the pill until two days after you had sex, you might have already BEEN pregnant.
Normally a woman calculates her cycle starting on the first day of bleeding from her period. Assuming you did that, and assuming you have a normal period, the chance you became pregnant from this sex is very small. If you normally have a 3 week period, then the chance is much, much greater.
Pregnancy starts when the sperm penetrates the ovum. This usually happens within hours of sex. Nowadays, some important people in the media are telling women that pregnancy begins when the baby implants. This is NOT the case. The moment the sperm penetrates, there is immediate action. The material in both sperm and egg mingle. Then growth starts. Since the new human being is inside the fluids of the mother's body, she is pregnant. If the fertilization was the result of an in vitro process, then you might be able to argue that pregnancy doesn't start until the new human being is placed into the mother's body, though you will still have a new human being. But in your case, that's not what took place. The new human being starts to move down the Fallopian tube toward the uterus. Each time he or she touches the wall of the Fallopian tube, hormonal messages are exchanged. This results in bonding between mother and child, but most women are not aware of it for awhile. However, a few women will know (I always did).
Protection doesn't work, so there is no need to fret because you had unprotected sex. However, you deserve to be free of the fear of pregnancy. You already know the reasons pregnancy would not be wise under your circumstances. You deserve a man who will respect your body, not one who will use you for self gratification. Threatening you with pregnancy is total lack of respect for you. Is your boyfriend the kind of man who can start to respect your integrity and your body? Have a talk with him. If he won't respect you, let him go and find someone better. It won't be easy emotionally. Sex causes a woman to bond with her partner. But the risks for you are simply too great.
If it turns out the "morning after" pill didn't end your pregnancy, if you were pregnant, or prevent pregnancy, then please do not consider abortion. Abortion is dangerous. It can kill you. It ALWAYS harms a woman's body, no matter how it is done. And it can cause severe harm to her future children. It can cause repeat miscarriage, tubal pregnancy, or serious birth defects. There are organizations in UK that will help you find a better answer. You can find one near you by going to the web site I linked above. They will help you find answers that will keep you safe, free from harm, and help you pursue your life in the way you would like. If you are pregnant, they will put you in touch with a doctor who will take good care of you and keep you safe. Please take care. Don't take any more poisonous pills. Please let me know how things go.
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QUESTION: Hello, i think i wrote to you before about taking the morning after pill about 48hrs after having un-protected sex and usually when i take it i always bleed one week after but this time i didn't and i wanted to know if it meaans that i am pregnant.
Shana
AnswerHello, Shana,
Nobody will be able to tell you that over the internet. You should test for pregnancy three weeks after you had sex. If the test is negative, test again in a week. Because you took the pill, I don't know how accurate the test will be. But if you are patient, you will find out eventually. You can consult a doctor about the best way to find out as early as possible, but please go to a doctor who is ethical and won't harm you. Don't go to one who thinks abortion is acceptable. He cannot be trusted to take good care of you. Abortion is bad medicine, and it's unethical. The doctor can test your hormones and tell you far more than you can learn by asking people over the internet. :)
If you then need any kind of help, PLEASE let me know. I will be here for you. I don't want to see you get hurt. Stay safe!
