QuestionAm I being too pushy? I have been in a relationship for more than 5 years now and I am tired of waiting for the next step . . . marriage! He and I have lived together, shared bank accounts, cars, household expenses for more than 4 years. We are practically married already, but he just hasn't taken the next step. When we originally discussed marriage we planned on a wedding for early 2007, well than never happened and I still waiting for a ring. He always claims "no money" and while he is currently in school and I was in school prior to that, it's not entirely untrue, but in the same instance, I have to wonder why he hasn't been able to save and $$ or at least show some interest in getting married. Should I give him more time until he is "finacially secure" or just give up on the idea entirely?
AnswerWell I think asking the question would be a good first step, "when are we going to get married.?" I'm afraid your in the scenario where the phrase was coined "why buy the cow when you're getting the milk for free." It's a little hard for the milk to dry up now, so sit down and set a date within a week or two to get engaged so that "you can begin to make marriage plans." If he doesn't want to hear it, you might as well get walking....... When you do things out of the correct order, these kinds of things happen. Next time, date for 3 years, get engaged for one, married, then move in together. That way there are no expectations that won't be met.
Bill
