QuestionMy wife and I recently found out that shes pregnant and its our first child we were recently married and shes about 2 and a half months along. I know that she has gone through a lot of significant changes in the last 2 months, finding out that she was pregnant, getting married and moving 8 hrs away from home. I know that her hormones are on the fritz right now, but it seems like that she hates me and resents me.
She has told me that she resents moving with me. I wanted to tell her that I didnt make her marry me and move with me but I thought it would be wise to keep my mouth shut.
There are quite a few things we are at odds about being newlyweds and her being pregnant. She has these 2 cats that she treats like children and loves to death. This is not a problem for me. I told her that the cats would be jealous and that when the baby comes it would probably become a problem. She told me that cats are people to and that the time would have to be divided between the baby and the cats. This is where I draw the line. No child of mine will take second place to an animal or be neglected of attention for a cat or any other animal for that matter. I figure that she will change her mind when the baby is actually born.
I just need to know if this is just hormones with everything besides the cats or something I just have to look forward to for the rest of my life, thank you
Answer Hello Clint. You have alot on your plate right now. But you must remember your wife has even more.
You mention the hormones and that is alot of it. She also has worry about her body and her health and the babies health etc etc.
Not that you don't worry about these things but a woman tends to feel more responsible for them.
As far as the cats go. She will probably get over that. Once the baby comes things will most likely change.
Let me offer this observation. You mention that you JUST got married and you JUST moved and you JUST got pregnant.
That is ALOT of changes. Alot of things that are out of control in a sense.
She may just be thinking this is one thing she is NOT going to let change. She needs that stability right now.
I also want to offer you a little story.
When I got pregnant with my first (and only) baby I had a cat. My cat was my life. I had her since she was a kitten and she was about 4 at the time.
The cat did not like me being pregnant I guess and started to poop in the bathtub. Nothing we did could get her to stop.
So we had to find her another home. I CRIED AND CRIED AND CRIED! But once I seen that there was a problem my first concern was the baby!
Now, I would have never thought in a million years before that point that I would have ever gotten rid of "my first baby". But when it came down to it the cat didn't meant that much.
Give her time. There is alot going on right now. Pushing the cat issue will not make things better. She will probably just cling to them more.
Good luck and feel free to consult me anytime.
