Pregnancy at 4 Months: Concerns, Risks, and Support

Question
i found out that i was pregnant by going to the emergency room, they gave the baby 40 percent chance to live, but then as time passed i went to my first obgyn appt and had an ultrasound done and my doctor said the baby was doin fine.. I am now four months along and am worried about a possible miscarrieage..and how common is it for a woman to die giving birth.. I am scared.. My husband gives lots of support, but i feel sort of alone..  Plus, since i had messed up periods and couldnt tell them the exact date at which i had my last period its making me wonder if im not further along..  

Answer
Hello Amanda. You are past the typical time for a miscarraige- so relax. It is very uncommon these days for a woman to die in childbirth. You need to be seeing a midwife rather than a dr. - she will do a much better job of educating you and your husband AND giving you the emotional support you are going to need. You also need to find your nearest Bradley Childbirth instructor and sign up for classes NOW- go to the Bradley Childbirth website. Then, find your local La Leche League group and start attending their great info sessions about breastfeeding- no, it's not too early- get started now. Your baby will come when the time is right and not before- do NOT be pushed into an induction. Please do not continue blindly trusting your dr to "take care of you"- YOU must take responsibility for your health care and inform yourself fully about all your options so that you can make informed decisions. The dr. will make decisions based on what is convenient for him/her and the hospital. All the best- Cheri.