QuestionQUESTION: Hi Brigid, thanks for getting back to me so soon..i really dont know what to do or where to go from here i haven't yet told anyone else other than you, i know it sounds stupid but i'm just shocked a bit, i want to tell my partner of course but i was thinking do you think i should tell him now as in today or wait until i get a confirmation from my GP..?? there is obviously a lot i have to think about now so i really do appreciate that your still willing to talk to me and advice me...i feel like your supporting me in some way..thank you very much i need to tell people like my parents i assume they maybe a bit upset but that isn't really my main concern right now i am more concerned thinking where does my life go from here,
ANSWER: Jasmine: of course you are shocked! And it's not stupid to feel that way. I will support you in any way I can. I don't think you need confirmation of a doctor but I think you should tell your boyfriend and parents when you are ready. You do have a lot to think about and you want to have the courage of your convictions when you do tell them. But remember that just as you were shocked when you found out, they will also have a reaction and be prepared for it. Suddenly your parents are grandparents and your boyfriend is a father. Just like you are a mother. But in our culture those may not be the first thoughts.
You are young but not so young that you can't do this! I will continue to pray for your family and your friends that they will support you and not put any pressure on you. My son and his girlfriend got pregnant, too. And now two years later, they have a beautiful little daughter and I have a wonderful granddaughter. And the other grandparents are just as jubilant about the addition to the family and all the aunts and uncles, etc. She brought a lot of joy and pain to our lives (she was born 3 months premature and was in the hospital for 4 months).
Life is full of challenging decisions. It might be "what school to go to?" or "What car to buy?" but each one has consequences. But there will be wisdom and support from others along the way, too. Rarely are we left out on a limb alone with no help.
Keep in touch and let me know how it goes. I could give you another email address if you want, so we don't have to go through this system.
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QUESTION: Thank you for your reassurance..yes please can i email through another email address
Thank you for praying for me..i am too lol..and im glad i have you to support me i couldn't thank you more..because it's you doing something off your own back NOT because you have to because you dont..and i think that is extremely nice of you
AnswerJasmine: write to me at bak.aa47@gmail.com I live in Michigan USA but with the internet we can be connected. I am happy to help you and I know this will become the best time of your life! That's what my son said after his daughter was born. The best and the worst. But we will help you all we can. There are care centers around that can give you the hands on help that you may need, if you want to contact one of them. CareConfidential centers are around the country and seem to be the kind of place that will help you with conversations and other things. But right now you just need to find peace for the new direction your life is going. And that is what I'm praying for.
Brigi
