Understanding Intimacy Issues: Exploring Past Trauma and Present Challenges

Question
Ok... I have come to a realization about something and I need some clarity from someone who may know more about this than me.  For many years I have had 'intimacy' problems... I don't like to be touched where my Husband would love to touch me.  As I tried to think back on why I have such a hard time with this, I remembered something that happened to me when I was 11 - 12.  I was having a problem where I would use the restroom... get up and then a minute or two later a little more urine would come out in my pants.  My mom mentioned this to her gynecologist, a 60 something year old man. He said he knew what the problem was... so she took me to him. He said that when I was using the toilet, the urine was passing up into my vagina and since I was so 'tight' it couldnt come back out as I was sitting on the toilet.  He said I needed to be 'stretched'. That day... and for several following visits over the next few months, my mom held my hand with tears streaming from my face as he spent 10 - 15 minutes 'stretching' me with his fingers.  It hurt so bad and I felt terrible afterwards - he would tell me that it was normal if I bled after too, and I usualy did.  To my point - was this a valid thing for this man to do, or is it like I am feeling, like this man just came up with an excuse to fondle an 11 year old girl. Thinking about it... I don't think it's possible to get 'pee' in one's vagina... especialy if the reason for 'stretching' me was that it was so tight!  Please help give me clarity on this - it is a process dealing with it, and some advice would be appreciated.

Answer
Hi Dealing,
The urethral opening is at the FRONT of the vaginal canal and urine doesn't flow backward into the vagina. I would say that this was an unecessary and inappropriate procedure. I can't speak to what was going through this doctor's mind, but stretching the vaginal canal, which is a muscle and will not KEEP any sort of stretched position, was in my view, clearly non medical in nature. I apologize for any and all of my colleagues who are less that ethical in their treatment of unsuspecting and trusting patients.