Questioni have taken abortion pill on 19th may and bleeding started frm 21st may, earlier the flow was speedy but now on 31st may the speed is extremely slow and the color is like brownish/blackish. when it ll stop and does i have a urine test now or later and what should i do afterward for better future.
AnswerHello, meera,
Brown blood is old blood, and it would be more of concern if you had bright red blood. However, abortion causes a serious disruption of a woman's delicately balanced hormones, so it is early to tell what the situation is with you. I recommend you see a doctor, and find out how your hormones are doing. He can tell you when you should be tested. Please go to someone other than the person who provided the abortion. Anybody who would use the medications they use in an abortion is committing malpractice, in my opinion, because the second set of pills should never be used by a pregnant woman. They can kill her within hours.
If you had cramps, that would be a good sign that your uterus is trying to return to normal. If not, then it is hard to say how well the abortion worked. Also, there is no predicting how the hormones will react, or if the abortion was successful, how soon they will return to some semblance of normal. You will simply have to be patient and watch yourself carefully. I hope you are all right. Please let me know how you do. If the abortion didn't work, it's best to leave things alone. Abortion is dangerous. There is no sense in continuing to take that kind of chance with your life.
As far as the future is concerned, I recommend that you refrain from the kind of sex that starts babies. That way, you won't have to worry about facing this again in the future. If you are married, obviously, it is reasonable for you to have sex. In that case, wait until your body returns to some kind of rhythm, and learn how to tell when you are fertile. You must chart faithfully, and you can't be using any hormones. You can find out more here:
http://fertilityuk.org/
If you are not married, I recommend you abstain from sexual relations. They do compromise your future. And they also will make it more difficult for you to have a decent marriage in the future. Your partner owes it to you to protect you and not take advantage of you. If he is not willing to protect you, you deserve someone better, and I would recommend you make yourself available for a decent man who will cherish and protect you, and not ask you to put your life at risk for his pleasure. You can find other ways to express affection, but please be aware that any kind of penetration into your body can lead to a nasty disease.
If your partner isn't willing to protect you, you will have emotional difficulty. Sex causes a woman to bond with her partner, because of hormones. Men don't have those hormones, so they find it fairly easy to walk away from a relationship. However, the emotional pain will ease with time. Take one day at a time. You will be all right.
Please take care of yourself!
