QuestionI am soon going to a place called kimberly home a pregnancy resource center to find out whether or not im pregnant because me and my boyfriend who is tecnically my fiance (we have not told anyone since im sixteen and he is 15) had unprotected sex and he may have gotten cum inside of me but we r not sure he does not know about most of this cause i told him i dont think i am pregnant when i got my period cause i though so but now i dont think it is my period i just think it is blood spotting or something cause it is just like that and not normal he does not know i still think i am or that im going to get tested soon just to be safe and that if i am i dont want to ruin our lives so i think i want to maybe get an abortion im scared to tell him about all this cause im pretty sure that he now thinks its alright. Should i tell him? I mean i cant tell my family cause they are crazy and would most likely kill him, im serious and not over exagerating, also i share some friends with my brother so i cant tell most of my
AnswerHello, Emily,
The pregnancy resource center sounds like a good idea. If you had sex, then you ran the risk of pregnancy, because pulling out doesn't work. Neither do condoms, by the way.
Don't think abortion will keep you from ruining your life. It could kill you instead, or leave you seriously disabled. It could make it impossible for you to have a normal pregnancy or a normal child in the future. Abortion is dangerous. It is not an answer. What if you have a complication? Everyone will find out anyway. Having an abortion to keep your pregnancy secret is not a good idea.
The pregnancy resource center can help you with the issue of telling parents, fiance and friends. That's one of the things they do. Let them explain all the facts about abortion, pregnancy, your baby's development, and so forth, and even if you aren't pregnant, they can explain things you will need to know.
Abortion has so many consequences people have written books about it. When people claim it's safe, they're either ignorant or they are lying. And it could prevent you from realizing your dreams. Not only that, but in most cases, a relationship breaks up after abortion, so you could lose your fiance if you have one. Please don't do this. You deserve better. Let me know what the Kimberly Home tells you. I think they should be very helpful. Take care, and please stay safe!
