Navigating Pregnancy After Abortion: Seeking Support & Options

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QUESTION: Im 16 year's old and  i recently had an abortion july 1st, 2009, and now here I am febuary 1st, 2010 7 weeks & 1 day pregnant. I really don't to get an abortion but my boyfriend thinks this isn't the right time and Im afraid like last time my mother won't support and force me to get an avortion. Since my last one i've felt so depressed and although i'm scared i'm happy. Im just not sure what to do and how much damage another abortion can do to my body.

ANSWER: Dear Shenise,
I really don't believe abortion is the answer. I don't know enough about your situation to know what you exactly all your options are. It isn't an easy road but sometimes here in the US another parent will pay for the whole medical expense and all the mom's needs if you give your baby up for adoption to a nice family. Do you have access to birth control? There are places here in the US that offer it free or at a very low cost like health dept. ect. There is medicaid for low income that pays for doctor visits and delivery when it is unffordable. A mother of course can choose to keep her baby. I know you are in a predicament torn between things and wonder if you have any choices. I know there are young ladies your age that can be hard to be told what to do. I know from experience if one wants to have it their way bad enough it's hard to really control what someone does. I think in life we are faced with reaching points where we make choices that become defining moments of who we really are. We can choose to make choices that repeat the same mistakes or realize we can do better, be better, deserve better and we we do make that tough choice we know we are better which is a good sense of self to have. Please also see http://net-burst.net/hope/baby_in_heaven.htm
Thank You,
Naomi

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QUESTION: i know about birth control i was on it but i couldnt keep up. And i decided to start again but it was too late i have indurance to cover all of the expences. Its just that i have no support, it feels like no one is in my corner, well except my boyfriend. i want to be a parent to my unborn baby but i need help. Thank you for responding. It was very motivational.

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Shenise,
I will pray for you that you will have have the courage and strength to do the right thing. I know in your heart that you know what that is. One way or another things work out... It may not always be easy but sometimes taking the easiest street in ones life isn't the best. You only have 1 life, so does your baby... Hope you can feel at ease with your decisions. I don't see how anyone could regret a baby because they are the joy of life. I think so much I know about life now comes from having my son. When you become a mother, you'll understand. In this life, the love of your child is the greatest love you can have for another person I believe. If life is not about love... What is it about?
I wish you the best!
All the best!
Naomi