QuestionQUESTION: Hi,I had an abortion 3days ago.I have been having slight pains since then n some spotting.are these pains normal n when should I expect my period?
ANSWER: Hi, simi,
There's nothing normal about having an abortion. It disrupts a woman's hormones, so there is no expecting a period. Nobody knows. You will have to wait and see. I'm not overly concerned about slight pains and spotting. I am much more concerned about the long term consequences, which can come back to you after years, and can harm your future children, for example. I will be concerned if you bleed a lot or have significant pain.
If you want more information about the long term consequences, I will certainly tell you all about it. Right now, keep an eye on yourself and if you develop significant symptoms, seek some decent medical care. You need to find a doctor who believes in medical ethics. That person will have sound judgment and will care about you. You can find a good doctor by referral from an organization that helps pregnant women and women who have experienced abortion. There are a couple hundred of these in UK. You can find one near you by going to this web site:
http://heartbeatservices.org/index.php/connections/worldwide-directory
Choose your country from the country list.
Please keep in touch and let me know how things go. Please take care of yourself. Don't take any more chances. Abortion is dangerous. Stay safe!
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QUESTION: The thing is I am just 18 years n cannot handle a baby when m in school.that is why I did this in the first place.please,may I know the long term consequences of this abortion?
AnswerHello, simi,
I understand your position. That's why these organizations exist, to help people in your position.
The best way to assure that you won't have to face this decision again is to stop having sex. Sex has deeper meaning that you won't experience as long as you are having sex under such circumstances. You deserve better.
It is still too soon after your abortion to know whether you will have any immediate consequences, but most of the things you will have to deal with will be in the future. Right now, you need to watch to make sure you don't get a nasty infection, and like I said, you will need to watch and make sure things don't get worse. If they do, you will need immediate care.
One thing you need to watch for is that you have a much greater risk of getting breast cancer than you did before. I don't recommend mammograms; see if you can find someone who will give you thermograms. You also will need to do things to protect yourself from this. Two things I would take as supplements if I were in your position are Vitamin D3 and resveratrol. There is information on the internet; do some research. Especially look at the web site
http://www.drmercola.com/ It is possible to get too high a level of Vitamin D3, so your blood will need to be tested periodically.
In future pregnancies, you will need to be vigilant about the following:
The possibility of tubal pregnancy. This is an emergency situation that will require surgery. If you start to feel pain during the early weeks, especially on one side, and especially if it stops suddenly, you need immediate medical care.
The next problem is the tendency toward miscarriage or very early birth in a future pregnancy. Very early birth can cause significant defects in the baby. These include cerebral palsy, mental retardation, autism, or epilepsy, and blindness or deafness. This problem is caused by the process of forcing open your cervix if you had a surgical abortion (you didn't say). The remedy is for the doctor to fasten your cervix shut until time for birth.
The final problem is that you may have either placenta previa or prolonged labor at the time of birth. This is caused by scarring in the uterus and cervix. It may mean you will have to have a Caesarian section.
If you had a pill abortion instead, at this time, not enough research has been done to know what the long term consequences are. But I'm guessing from what you said, you had a surgical abortion. Regardless of method, you are still at greater risk for breast cancer.
The abortionist should have told you these things before you had an abortion. He has a duty to obtain your informed consent. You deserve better.
Yes, it's difficult to have a baby when you are only 18, and not finished with your education. But like I said, there are people out there willing to help you, and it is possible. There are programs in most school districts that will allow you to continue to attend school, and often will provide child care while you are in class. You can also choose to complete your education on the internet. If you are simply unable to care for a child in spite of all the help available, adoption is available, and it's a lot safer for you.
Please take care of yourself. I will pray that you won't have any future consequences. Stay safe, and don't take any more chances.
