So, you have to start making an income, but you have no real
skills, and you haven’t been out in the work force since dirt
was created. Let’s face it, in the divorce process, women most
often end up with the short end of the stick financially. But
what can you do? What employable skills do you have?
I’ve done many things to make ends meet (all legal), including
actually getting a job, meaning that I went out, beat the
pavement, and handed in résumé’s and job applications, all in
the hope that someone would hire me for a lousy $7 an hour after
years of being at home with my kids.
Does this sound like you? Are you on the verge of divorce, or
are you recently divorced? Are you without an income of your
own? Are you terrified that you will be entirely reliant on your
ex for child support or alimony as your only means of income?
Don’t put yourself in that position. I did, and every time he
got pissed off about something, it would reflect somehow in my
alimony payments. Yes, I could have taken him to court over it,
but court costs money, and I didn’t have it. It took awhile, but
I finally gave my head a shake, and decided that I desperately
needed to buck up and make my own money. I didn’t want to depend
on anyone else to give me a paycheck, especially my ex husband.
And I didn’t have the desire to leave my kids to go out and work
for some idiot, so my only other option was to start my own
business.
Before your landlord comes knocking at your door, or your bank
sends you that letter of forclosure, do something. There are
lots of opportunities out there for you, and you don’t have go
out and work for someone else in order to make a decent living
if that’s not something that your situation will allow.
I’ve done many things. I’m the type of person who can do
something until I get bored with it, then I move on. I’ve owned
a successful extras talent agency, a thriving fashion
accessories business, and a catering company. All were tons of
fun both to start and to run, and the money that I made (and
still make) is extremely gratifying. I still own and am involved
in the fashion accessories business, and the catering company.
And I will tell you, that if it wasn’t for those endeavors, my
children and I would probably be out on the street right now.
You really are the only one who can decide what should happen to
you and your children financially.
Take control.
Melissa Harvey
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