If you have the nagging feeling that your husband may be having
an affair, this is the ideal time to confirm what you suspect.
The Valentine’s Day gifts he gives or receives can provide you
with tangible proof of his infidelity.
If your husband has a lover he’s certain to buy her a
Valentine’s Day gift; whether he receives one in return or not.
This could prove to be his undoing. An observant wife can find
some solid evidence this time of year if she knows what to look
for and where to look.
A husband can sometimes get away with giving his wife a card and
a hastily purchased box of chocolates. But tradition demands
that on Valentine’s Day, he gives his mistress a special gift.
No self-respecting man would try to impress his girlfriend with
a cheap token of his affection. If he wants to remain in her
good graces (and in her bed) he has to buy her a decent gift.
It goes without saying that gifts cost money. Even if your
husband has been siphoning off small sums for several weeks or
months, you’ll find evidence of his spending somewhere. If he
doesn’t pay in cash he’ll have to use his credit card. But
there’s always a paper trail.
Have there been any suspicious withdrawals from your bank
accounts? Check the time period shortly before or after
Valentine’s Day. Were there any unexplained ATM withdrawals
around this time?
Check your credit card statements for the month of February, and
the latter part of January too. Look for charges made at jewelry
stores, women’s specialty stores, or boutiques, florists, day
spas, restaurants and the like. Scrutinize any charges made on
February 14th.
Check his wallet, his pockets, his backpack, his briefcase for
charge slips or store receipts. If you find evidence of gift
items you didn’t personally receive, it should raise a red flag
in your mind. Since your husband didn’t give these gifts to you,
who did he give them to?
Check various places in and around your home for hidden gifts –
under the bed, in the back of a file cabinet or dresser drawer,
on the back of the closet floor, or on a seldom used shelf.
Don’t forget to search the car too. Look underneath the seat, in
the trunk, in the glove compartment and in the tire well.
If you find a hidden gift, don’t jump to conclusions unless it’s
obvious the gift is not for you (too large, too small, a color
or style that he knows you wouldn’t wear, or has another woman’s
name attached).
If Valentine’s Day passes and you haven’t received the hidden
gift (but it’s now gone), then it’s obvious that he gave it to
someone else. Make it your business to find out who.
Shortly before Valentine’s Day, Carol found a box in her
husband’s sock drawer containing a diamond and sapphire ring.
She said nothing because she didn’t want to spoil the surprise.
But on Valentine’s Day Jim gave Carol a dozen long stem roses
and a gift certificate for a day of pampering at her favorite
day spa. The next day Carol searched high and low but the ring
box could not be found. She spent several sleepless nights
trying to figure out what had become of the ring. Three weeks
later Carol dropped by Jim’s office to meet him for lunch. One
of his co-workers was wearing a ring similar to the one in the
box. It didn’t take Carol long to find out Jim and this woman
were having an affair.
Laura found a gift box containing a sexy negligee in the trunk
of her husband’s car. He tried to pass it off as a gift he
purchased for her but the gown was several sizes too small. No
amount of persuasion on his part could convince Laura the
salesclerk put the wrong size in the box by mistake. Especially
since she had already found other telltale signs of a possible
affair.
Be suspicious of any unusually expensive gifts your husband
receives this month. Especially if he claims he purchased the
items for himself, but can’t produce a receipt.
Likewise, warning bells should sound if your husband receives
gifts of an extremely personal nature, in February or at any
other time. No woman other than yourself should be giving your
husband six pairs of silk boxer shorts — unless it’s his mother
or his sister. (And even then, you should check to make sure.)
Take notice if your husband is missing for several hours on
February 14th. Be wary if he invents excuses to come home late,
or to run an errand later on, on Valentine’s night. These could
be additional telltale signs.
If you suspect your husband of cheating, Valentine’s Day gifts
could provide the missing pieces of the infidelity puzzle.
Especially if there have been other telltale signs in the
previous weeks or months. It may be time to have a serious talk
with your husband. If he’s cheating, you don’t want to be the
last one to know. Find out what’s going on before it’s too late.
© Ruth Houston 2004