Rebuilding Connection: Navigating Early Marriage Challenges & Counseling

Question
My husband and I got married very young - 20 and 19, respectively.  We are about to celebrate our 2nd anniversary.  About two months ago, we got into an argument and my husband broke down and said he felt completely disconnected.  he said he didn't know if he was capable of having a long term relationship.  that day, we made an appointment to see a marriage counselor.  i think a lot of his fears about himself and about marriage have been calmed during our weekly counseling sessions.  we are both in this for the long haul, and we are making real progress.  our sex life is better than ever, we are being more honest with each other, and we are not letting little disagreements turn into huge fights.  he is as happy as a clam it seems - he feels like he is back on track.  well, now i am having some trouble.  i am having difficulty really trusting "us" again - i guess i am so afraid that we might get to the point we were at before that i am overanalyzing EVERYTHING!  of course, we are both frustrated, but he does understand that i want to stop doing it.  i was hoping that you could give me some tips for really letting myself start all over again and not hold onto the fear or resentment of before.  we really would like some practical tips on just what we can both do to make this marriage stronger than ever and help me get over my insecurity of not giving him what he needs.  thanks for any help.  

Answer
Dear Lindsay,

Your experience is not uncommon, and it is healthy to have a "reality" check on your marriage. Trust is a feeling that builds in tiny steps, just like it look a while for your spouse to say what he felt about the marriage. The more you communicate the less likely you will be to have the distrust and the more likely you will build the trust. It sounds like you've gotten back on your feet..keep walking!