QuestionQUESTION: Ok here's the thing i am 20yrs old and five(5)months pregnant,i am suddenly a scorn to my boyfriend atleast so i think. We never have sex and he doesn't even have any interest in mine and my baby's well being... I need to have sex to make passage for my child so do i have sex with some1else?would it affect my baby in any way? And wat should i do about my b/f..... I'm really wanna knw cause i need a safe delivery!
ANSWER: Dear Kala,
Thank you for writing me I will try to help you out if I can please keep in mind that I am from a different culture and background. I say this because I am not very sure I understand completely WHY! you need to have SEX to make passage for your child? I do know that if you are too far along in your pregnancy that it could HARM your child if the sex is too rough! I also do not understand the boyfriend thing fully ESPECIALLY if he is NOT THE FATHER! of your child I can understand why he may be upset with you. In fact the FATHER OF YOUR CHILD should be the one taking responsibly for you and your baby! And as for a safe delivery that in my opinion would depend on your prenatal care doctor and hospital staff not a tradition (which I am putting you down for this tradition). It just does not compute with me how it would help you and your baby start a life together.
Child birth is a Miracle from God! or whom ever you deed as as a higher power and is not to be taken for granted it can be a beautiful experience for mother and child BUT! you must be ready for the responsibility that goes along with it. Hope I have answered your question some.
God Bless you and your Child and as for your currant boyfriend you may have to let him go if he cannot come to an understanding about your pregnancy and you just concentrate on the new life that is growing inside of you.
Navita
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QUESTION: Hey Navita...Thanks for responding but the Boyfriend that i am talking about is the Father of the Child, i wouldn't expect a man who isn't the father to take responsibility..i jus wanna knw if this is a natural way for men to behave when some1 is pregnant for them..I REALLY DON'T UNDERSTAND IT. Anyways thanks alot for ur response.
AnswerDear Kala,
Sadly Some men are NOT impressed with a woman having a baby for them in fact a lot of them DO NOT WANT A BABY! they just want to have the fun of making a baby and will SAY ANYTHING! to get the woman to open her heart and LEG'S! to them and have SEX! with them. I HATED! to put it this way my sister but sometimes men can be very callous and self serving and do not care for the woman they are with they only WANT SEX! Not a WIFE, NOT A GIRLFRIEND NOT A BABY! And this sounds like what has happened in your case and it crosses many culture's was once told by a man that HE would let you know if he wants to have a life with you or not.
So instead of trying to capture the man I would now turn all my love and attention to your baby and yourself and try to make a life for you and your child.
Hope I have helped a little.
God Bless
Navita
