QuestionQUESTION: i have server endometriosis and the only thing they can do now is a hysterectomy (am 23 years old), so me and my partner decided to try for a baby it took 10 months then i found out i was pregnant then at 10 weeks i had a miscarriage we want to try again after I've had my period but am scared if it'll take as long to fall pregnant again or is it quicker as i do need a hysterectomy ASAP and my partner has no children of his own (i have 2 ).
thanks Rachel
ANSWER: Rachel,
You should discuss this with your doctor. It may not be viable for you to consider another pregnancy. Have they offered you any advice on trying again?
Most doctors will recommend that you wait 3 complete cycles before trying again after a miscarriage, however that is only a recommendation so that your body has time to rest and return to normal. I have heard that you are more fertile after a miscarriage, then as you have more cycles your body does return to normal.
Will they be leaving your ovaries in? If not, could you not harvest some eggs and have them frozen? You may be able to find a surrogate who will carry your child, and with your egg, and your partners sperm it will be biologically yours even though you weren't able to carry it yourself.
I cant imagine what you are going through and I just want to wish you and your partner all the very best. Maybe set a time limit with you, your partner and your doctor. Maybe say if you aren't pregnant by 6 months then scedule the operation. Your health really does have to be paramount, and you need to set guidelines that are safe for you.
Kind regards,
Christine
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QUESTION: yeah they said we can try again after I've had my 1st period. no there be taking the whole lot cos i need laser treatment on my kidneys and bowl to as its spread to there as well.before i fell pregnant we were going to look into ivf on the nhs (as we cant afford it) but don't know if we'd qualify for it.
thanks Rachel
AnswerRachel,
You could ask your gynaecolgist about IVF treatment. It may be possible that you would qualify for it, although I can imagine the waiting lists on the NHS will be very long, and Im talking years long. You could ask about other fertility treatment though, maybe taking the tablets that increase egg production would help. As you can physically get pregnant, having more eggs could increase your chance of one being fertilised. All this would have to be discussed with your consultant though, as I am not in a position where I can say if you qualify or not. I do belive you have to be in a certain BMI to qualify though, I think you have to have a BMI of under 30. I have PCOS, and so does my friend. I was offered this treatment (although right now Im not wanting to try so declined it) and my BMI is 30. My friend however asked for it, and was told she was too over weight and would have to reach a BMI of at least 30, and thats 2 different doctors, 2 different hospitals, actually 2 different countries as Im in Wales. So I guess its a set rule by the NHS. Worth asking about though!
A lot of places/ people say to maximise sperm production you should have sex only on your most fertile days. Since having PCOS and doing some digging, and being on a parenting website where I hear all kinds of information and ideas. I heard that just going for it all the time is far better. The sperm count doesn't decline the more you have sex, and therefore you increase your chances of getting caught as you may ovulate early/late, or your charting may be wrong, or you could produce an egg from either side on different days, so your fertile window is longer than normal.
Physically its not too soon, so if you are ready emotionally just crack on with the trying. In the mean time consult your consultant about fertility treatment. Start eating a healthy diet and get your body in shape for pregnancy. Take folic acid, and pre pregnancy suppliments. If you are over weight, and have a BMI of over 30 then concentrate on bringing that down to a healthy level. Having a healthy body will help your fertility a lot, and also if you do qualify for treatment, they are much more likely to agree if you have a lower BMI.
Good luck
Christine
