QuestionQUESTION: We are trying for the baby since last three months. The problem we face is after I pull back my penis from the vagina, all the semen comes out. We try to put pillow for almost 2 hours but still no use. We are using lubricating oil as well. I would like to ask you that is it cause due to using lubricant or it is natural?
ANSWER: I wouldn't worry about anything after only 3 months. Even if you time everything perfectly, you only have a 20% chance of conceiving each cycle. Rather than worry about semen leakage (which is normal and does not affect conception), I would look at your timing. Is your partner tracking her fertility using fertility awareness/natural family planning methods? By charting her cervical changes and basal body temperature, she can pinpoint her ovulation. If you have intercourse within 24 hours of ovulation, you will be maximizing your chances for conception that cycle. If you do not have intercourse within that window (or at least the 3-5 days preceding ovulation), all the special techniques in the world won't help you get pregnant.
Check out the free fertility charting tips and software available at www.fertilityfriend.com for more information, and good luck!
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QUESTION: Dear Dr
Thanks for the advice. One thing I would like to clarify from you that how the body temperature of my wife is related with the ovulation time? Can we detect the exact time of ovulation by using a normal thermometer? if yes kindly brief me the procedure so that we intercourse at the best time.
AnswerIn order to use body temperature to chart ovulation, you need a thermometer that reads to at least one-tenth of a degree. One-hundredth (two decimal places) is better, because the thermal shift is more subtle in some women, and you can get this by buying an inexpensive digital Basal Body Temperature thermometer.
Every day, your wife should take her temperature first thing in the morning. This needs to be done before getting out of bed. Even something as simple as walking across the room to turn off the alarm can raise your temperature as much as a degree and wipe out any benefit of charting. So she needs to take her temperature in bed every morning, at the same time every day (and then she can go back to sleep, if she wants to sleep in!). Record this temperature on a chart; free charting services are available on www.fertilityfriend.com, and there are free and low-cost software packages that you can download from other sources.
This basal body temperature will stay relatively steady during the first part of your wife's cycle. Approximately 24-48 hours after ovulation, the temperature will shift noticeably upwards, by a half or full degree (or more). The temperature will then stay elevated until 1-3 days before your wife's expected period, when it will start to fall back to pre-ovulation levels. If your wife is pregnant, the temperature will stay elevated through the expected date of her next period, and may even rise again at that time (what is called a triphasic temperature chart). She might also see a single-day dip around the time of her expected period, which can be caused by implantation and can be a further sign of pregnancy if it only lasts a day.
While this method does not allow you to predict ovulation in advance, if your wife is regular it will tell her when she can expect it next month. If she is not regular, this will also show on the charts within 2-3 months, and she can then expand her charting to include other symptoms (cervical position, cervical opening, vaginal mucous, etc.) that can better predict ovulation in advance. This is known as sympto-thermal fertility charting, and provides the best possible picture of your wife's fertility. With full sympto-thermal charting, even if your wife is irregular you should be able to see ovulation approaching 1-5 days in advance, giving you plenty of time to have intercourse and maximize your chances for conception that cycle.
Good luck!
